Food Blogging

“Peas And Thank You” Closes Down Her Blog

Sarah Matheny, food blogger at Peas and Thank You, has announced that she too is done:

We’re starting a new chapter in our life which, as you may have guessed, includes more children, but also more immediately, includes additional responsibilities in educating and discipling our girls.  It’s time for letting go of some things in order to prepare for what’s ahead.

On her facebook page she says “we are adopting! A little girl, under 3 from China” and that she hopes “to find a (free) way to maintain the site” so she can leave the recipes available online.




  1. avatar hockeygirl19

    I know nothing about this woman, but I initially read "discipling" and "disciplining."

    Either way it's weird.

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    • So did I! Now I can't figure out if she meant "disciplining" or if she is talking about getting more Jesus into her kids' lives.

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      • avatar KAS

        If they're Christian enough to adopt from China and homeschool, it's definitely "discipling".

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        • avatar SkortsForSports

          Raise your hand if you didn't know that "disciple" could be made into a verb.

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            • avatar heathersmether

              Why can't I stop laughing at this

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            • avatar playswithfire

              There need to be far, far more awkward. GIF's up in these parts.

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              • avatar TurkeyVulture

                Oh, are these from Awkward? I don't have a TV, so I have no clue about TV stuff. :'(

                Fun fact: I acted in a ton of stuff during high school with the guy who plays Jake. He was a really cool kid, super nice and fun to act with.

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              • avatar polecat

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              • avatar polecat

                Darn it! Trying again ...

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      • avatar Vodka Utahnic

        Her bio:

        Hi, I'm Sarah.
        I'm a daughter of Christ, a lucky wife, a determined mom, a joyful food writer.
        Always laugh with your mouth full.

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  2. avatar boatsiaj

    Donate em to the Smithsonian. That should adequately feed the monster ego

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  3. avatar KAS

    What, she doesn't want to keep it up and become an adoption/homeschooling expert? She's going to go out there and actually live her life? CRAZINESS.

    No but seriously, good for her, good luck to the family.

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    • avatar KAS

      Oh hey, I like this part:

      And, if I’m being honest, I want to free myself. I don’t want to seek the masses’ praises or protests in response to the choices I make in my life

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      • avatar Wee (formerly WWWinkie)

        And she closed her comments section. I really liked that too.

        Yay for privacy!!

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    • avatar Suicidal Pigeon

      When I shut my blog and started to live my own life? AMAZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZING.

      Having everyone give their opinion on every damn move you make gets old, quickly.

      Good for her; I hope she has lots of fun "disciplining."

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  4. avatar oprah

    The real question is, will she still have time to issue KERF's DMCA takedown notices? (http://getoffmyinternets.net/kerf-is-now-suing-gomi/)

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  5. avatar mrsjonstewart

    I wonder if we will get to a point where bloggers feel comfortable recognizing the natural arc of their blogs' lives and just be OK with pulling the plug. There are so many that are stale and phony, and there are so many bloggers who seem so sick of the blogging thing...but most just can't let go.

    It is kind of like when your favorite TV show has run its course...just gets embarrassing after a while. The American way is to run that show into the ground and squeeze every last penny out, but it would be great if bloggers could adopt more of a BBC model and recognize things eventually have to come to an end.

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    • avatar Wee (formerly WWWinkie)

      Except in Downton's case, in which they think the show can continue without Sybil and Matthew.

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      • avatar JaffaCakes

        True. I don't see how it can be any good anymore. (Though technically an ITV joint and not BBC.)

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        • avatar Wee (formerly WWWinkie)

          The last two episodes of this past season felt like homework assignments to me.

          I'd be down with a Thomas Barrow spinoff though!

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        • avatar musket of wine

          False. The show could just be all Mary all day and it would be the best show in the world.

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          With maybe some Dowager Countess thrown in.

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    • avatar Suicidal Pigeon

      Agreed times 100. I can think of a few blogs that are 10+ years old now, still sputtering along like an old timer on a dying Rascal.

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      Sometimes, you just gotta pull that plug.

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      • avatar investment swimsuit

        OMG, that woman looks just like my awful MIL. This explains so much...

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      • avatar just no

        Now I'm sitting here going "But WHAT'S THE NEXT MOVE?" I just feel like I should be following along and learning some sweet, sweet disco moves.

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    • avatar Truth

      This. I commend the folks who know when it is time to get off the internet, at least in terms of personal blogging, and particularly when their blogging involves children.

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      • avatar Kitty Likes to Scratch

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        Amen, sister.

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        • avatar mrsjonstewart

          I feel like a couple of big ones need to do it, and then they'll start to fall like dominoes. Kind of like when one HLBer finally realized she couldn't survive on just Nuun and Attune coupons anymore and got herself a job...suddenly they were all announcing they needed to spend less time on the blog/find more traditional employment.

          BlogHer really needs a session on this, and some of the hams on this board would be PERFECT to lead it.

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          • avatar Suicidal Pigeon

            I would be more than happy to lead this one. Once I stopped blogging I made--GASP-- real live friends-- friends I hung out with in person. I really never had to do that while blogging, because I had enough people stroking my ego daily and giving me whatever interactions I needed via comments and email.

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      • avatar Suicidal Pigeon

        Back when I blogged, I wrote about my children. (Head smack.) When they're little, it is hard to think that there will EVER be a period in their lives when they have opinions on their own besides what flavor jelly they want on their toast.

        My children are old enough now that I know they would absolutely HATE being on the Internet. By the age of 6, my oldest realized that pictures sometimes went on Facebook and that was not OK.

        In our house, the biggest ongoing joke/threat is, "I'm going to put this on Youtube."

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        • avatar Who am I again?

          And some kids don't mind.

          I started blogging when my son was about 4. I shared something that some people thought I shouldn't have, but it was related to a health issue that runs in my family, which the boys (it skips the girls, apparently) generally grow out of by age 16. It's something that I watched my brother be shamed, beaten, humiliated, and publicly degraded for - by my parents! - and when, on one particularly bad day, I felt like yelling at my own 6 year old for something that I knew was beyond his control, it occurred to me that the fact that we keep it so "hush-hush don't let the neighbors know" contributes to ALL the problems. The problems the kids experience in dealing with it, in feeling guilty or ashamed or "bad," the problems the parents experience in feeling like they're failing in some aspect of parenting - everything.

          So I wrote a careful post about it, mentioning briefly my own experiences, as a child watching my brother being beaten and as a mother trying to stifle my frustration, and providing as much solid medical information as I could, with "tips and tricks" I gleaned from all sorts of people. Two people commented negatively - one telling me I was an unfit mother and she hoped CPS would take my son away, and the other more obliquely, saying something like "there's a reason we usually don't talk about that..." But seven or eight people commented positively - not "great post!" but sharing their own frustrations, tips that had worked for them, and general "thanks for trying to strip away the shame" stuff - and several others emailed the same type of comments.

          Still I worried that I had done wrong by my son - so I sat down with him and asked him. "This is what I did; I should have thought to ask you before I did it and I'm sorry, I didn't think, so I'm asking you now - here's what I wrote, do you want me to delete it?"

          He thought for a moment and said, "Do you think it will help some of the other people?" I said yes, that they'd already said it did. And he shrugged and said, "Then I don't care."

          And that was that. I did learn from that experience, and started being careful to run it by him before I blogged anything that involved him, especially if it was something that could be seen as "sensitive information." I usually regretted asking for his approval, because he'd invariably say, "Yeah! Oh, and tell 'em about when I did this - and don't forget last week when I said that!" There was only one thing that he ever asked me not to blog about, and it had more to do with someone else (an adult)'s feelings than with his own.

          So yeah - some kids will be appalled that they're making a public appearance on a daily basis; some will love it and help you come up with something to talk about.

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    • avatar Lionel is the REAL Messi

      That's exactly what Petite Anglaise and Belle de Jour (coincidentally, both English) did - they had massively popular blogs and book deals, but also had the grace to let things go when they weren't feeling it any more/it became unfeasible to blog.

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      • avatar Kitty Likes to Scratch

        I can relate to this. Well, not the book deal part. But I actually have a blog and I've been seriously considering letting it go for a while now because of this very reason - I'm just not feeling it anymore. It's not a small blog - not huge by any means, but I've made a decent name for myself. And there was a point when I felt like, because of that, there was no way I could just "walk away." But I've been posting less and less lately and instead of missing it, it feels freeing. That tells me something.

        I feel like my blog served its purpose during a time in my life when I needed a creative outlet and maybe some sense of autonomy. But now that time has passed and I have other interests and priorities. So, when I pull the trigger, it won't feel like giving up. Just letting go. And that's okay.

        (Plus I'm sort of fed up with a lot of the bullshit in blogging.)

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        • Ya know, I keep hearing people talk about how they are "fed up" with the rampant blogging world bullshit, yet instead of just blogging without it, they participate until they get so pissed off with it all that they just quit blogging.

          Nobody makes bloggers participate in link swaps and giveaways and sponsored posts or conferences or any of the 'playing nice' shit. If it makes blogging so miserable for so many people, why the fuck are they all going along with it??? It's almost like everyone thinks they HAVE to. They don't.

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          • avatar Kitty Likes to Scratch

            I don't do any of that, PP. Never have, really. When I said I was fed up with the bullshit in blogging, I just meant the cliqueyness and cattiness, the enabling of bad behavior, the fact that you can't make a single criticism about any blogger without being labeled a troll, that sort of thing. But yeah… the "rules" of blogging are pretty irritating too. I just don't much care about playing by them.

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            • That's the stuff that falls under "playing nice" to me.

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              • avatar Kitty Likes to Scratch

                You're right. You're exactly right. And I hate it. And I hate being made to feel like I'm a bad person for not buying into it. I think the sanctimony is the one big thing that has singlehandedly ruined blogging for me.

                I think, looking through this thread and how much I agree with the responses, and also looking at my own, I think I'm done. It's just a matter now of how to pull the trigger - officially "close up shop" or just fade into oblivion?

                Regardless, thanks for the perspective, Hamcats.

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          • I didn't so much quit blogging as I downsized. I don't feel the need to blog daily/weekly or even monthly. I write when I want to.
            A lot of the ''bullshit' I experienced quickly disappeared when I stop going to a lot of sites, Blogher and other blogging networks.. Quitting Twitter was the best decision I could have made. it's not the blogging that gets tiresome it's the idea that I had to brand myself as someone to appease the masses.
            I would love to see blogging go back to what it was, a community of people sharing ideas and thoughts.
            Saying this it's weird that I come to GOMI- as I try to avoid the minefield of blogging. But really coming here is my validation.

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            • avatar Kitty Likes to Scratch

              Yes, the branding drives me insane. People take themselves so fucking seriously, it's ridiculous. And the need to dominate All The Social Media! First it was StumbleUpon, then Facebook, then Pinterest, then Instagram, now it's Pinterest again. Christ on a cracker, it takes all the fun out of social media. I gave up on Pinterest for a while when it got overrun by bloggers with their ridiculous PicMonkey'ed "pinnable images." I eventually came back, unfollowed every blogging-related board that popped up in my feed, and now I mainly just use it to look at pretty kitchens. I'm just so over all of it. Some days I wish the Internet didn't even exist.

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              • avatar Suicidal Pigeon

                I have a lot of nostalgia for the 1990s when all the Internet was (for me) was AOL and a very slow dial-up connection.

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              • OMFG all the social media that you 'must' do. WTF? Who outside of a professional full time blogger has time to keep up with 8 different social media things???

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              • I remember the first time I saw #Sponsored on my Pinerest page
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        • avatar Nobody really

          I'm in the same boat. My blog wasn't huge, but it made a reasonable name for itself. For a long time I felt a sort of obligation to keep it up as a result of that but lately I've just been blogging more on my own terms. It's nice. I don't know why I didn't think of it before. I lost 3/4 of my readership in the time period when I wasn't blogging as frequently and now all that's left are people who genuinely care about giving thoughtful commentary and having a conversation.

          I feel like having a larger blog served its purpose in my life when I needed an outlet because staying home with a baby was just killing me by boredom, but now that it's smaller and less active I'm much happier. I don't know if I'll ever give up my blog entirely because I do appreciate the advice and ideas I receive from readers, but I do know that from here on out any blogging I do will be on my terms and if I choose to let go I'll be at peace with that decision.

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        • avatar Suicidal Pigeon

          Kitty-- it is amazing to walk away.

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          • avatar Schmickschmack

            SHH FTW. I <3 Misteh G.

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            • avatar twisted pearls

              Same here. I joined Blogher and went to a conference where I met a lot of the stars. That was it for me. My kids are 13 & 15.....they are too old to write about or READ some of my stories. The day I quit Blogher was one of the best days of my life.

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              • avatar Cheesy Fish and Fishy Broccoli

                Same here, but with Foodbuzz. Qutting blogging was the best decision I made for myself. I lost incredible amounts of weight I'd been desperately trying to lose too by not eating like the HLBs anymore. Go figure.

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  6. She's a daughter of Christ. I KNEW that Jesus was gettin' it in while He was here on Earth.

    (It's a joke. I'm a Christian too. I just don't say things like "daughter of Christ".)

    Okay, on a completely non-snarky note, good for her. Walking away can be really cathartic, and sometimes it absolutely is best for you and your sanity. So good for her. I can respect her decision to focus on real life. And I'm sure she'll go on to have a very rich life.

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  7. avatar constant threat of pizza

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    Congratulations! Enjoy life!

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  8. avatar Who am I again?

    Is she gonna be someone who closes the blog, starts blowing up Pinterest/Instagram/Facebook/Twitter/YouTube/Vine/every damn other thing, then 3 months later reopens the blog, declares it a fresh slate/new beginning/new stage in life/miles away from anything she did before, and is recycling posts from the old blog within a year?

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    • I did that. Well, not the recycling old posts. But I've reinvented myself a few times. Mostly because I have multiple personalities.
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    • I think we should start a pool to see how long before she starts blogging again. I can't imagine going from having that kind of platform to going cold turkey. Is there a blogger rehab program I don't know about?

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      • avatar DoubleEntendre

        There are several variables. It will be post-adoption, and depending on how quickly the child shows behavioral issues, the faster her return to the Safe Place of the internet, where one can craft one's own world.

        Her first post will be something along the lines of "So many people have been asking how Petunia Piaoliang is doing!"

        She will have no choice, you see. For now, agencies are getting pushback from people posting their prospective child's information and photos all over the webz. Pretty much that's why we're not being treated to the "Journey to Jiangsu Province" but it will be archived for our reading plea$ure once Petunia steps on American soil.

        In my opinion, of course.

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  9. avatar Fishy Salads

    I used to read P&TY, before she stopped being vegan and refused to discuss it with her readers (Remember that?!)

    Her best recipe, hands down, is vegab Pumpkin gingersnaps. I'm thankful I copied it down so it doesn't matter if the recipe part of the blog goes down.

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    • avatar resident asshole

      Ok - I will admit that I don't follow this blog at all so I don't know the specific context of what you're referencing. But I will say that I was vegan for not-quite a year and had to stop/ease myself back into eating animal products because of health issues. I can see why someone might choose not to discuss their reasons for ceasing to be vegan if they're health-related.

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      • avatar vegetabitch

        She had a blog built around being vegan and published two vegan cookbooks. She was pretty self-righteous about her superior food choices and then, suddenly, she is eating dairy and says she never claimed she was totally vegan. The context is important in this case.

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      • avatar wifebot

        She was a judgmental bitch when she was vegan, constantly saying things like..."dinner was so good, and nobody had to die!" So when she decided to flip the switch and go to rodeos and start eating animal products again, I'm sure you can imagine that people felt she was a hypocrite.

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  10. avatar Fishy Salads

    *vegan* (not vegab.) So drunk on Franzia.

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    • avatar Wee (formerly WWWinkie)

      Portmanteau!! Vegab = Gabbing about Veganism

      "She just would not SHUT UP with the vegab at lunch today."

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      • avatar TheWidowWadman

        Imma steal this one for talking to my transitioning-to-vegan-won't-shut-up-about-it family member.

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      • avatar trickazzbee

        Let's make Vegab happen.

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  11. avatar zhnjg

    Ugh. If there's anything these evangelical Christian blogs have done for me, it's turn me off evangelical Christianity for life. She has a post on her "Top 5 Reads" for the year. Created to be His Helpmeet helped her realize that she shouldn't be looking to her husband for personal fulfillment. You couldn't glean that from literature?? You had to get that from Debi Pearl--some trashy fundie in the hills of nowhere spewing her deep thoughts on Jesus? I *hate* Christian self-help books! Read a little St. Augustine. Blaise Pascal? ANYONE who wasn't born in the past fifty years besides C.S. Lewis?

    This just perpetuates the super-introverted, MEMEMEMEME version of Christianity where it's all about DIY-ing your insides for Jesus. Yay for her for getting off the internets in an adult fashion; I just wish this entire subset of Christianity would get off the planet. Fingers crossed for the rapture.

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    • avatar Suicidal Pigeon

      I recently drove past one of those dime a dozen new hip Fundie churches. Pretty sure the sign on the outside read, "The Gospel according to Jason Mraz." Whaa?

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    • avatar ouzter

      C.S. Lewis wasn't born in th last 50 years.

      I'm so sorry, but I couldn't physically stop myself from typing that.
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      • avatar zhnjg

        Oh, that wasn't worth Googling--not during the sudden onslaught of anti-evangelical rage I was experiencing. Though come to think of it, yes, you're right. I saw Shadowlands (or whatever the title of that movie was where Anthony Hopkins played Lewis. Also not worth Googling). I think it was styled for the 30s? He was old by then.

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        • avatar Chrissy

          C.S. Lewis died in the 1960's, same day as Kennedy or MLK. Sorry, too lazy to google. Back to snarking!

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      • avatar zhnjg

        Also, this is my face whenever my inlaws start talking about modesty at the beach (lately, their favourite topic) and the importance of wearing one pieces so as not to cause the boys to lust/stumble.

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        • Oh my mom does this too. At least she used to. Last time she asked if my daughters were going to be wearing one pieces on our beach outing, I said "Of course! The older girls will wear the top piece and the younger girls will wear the bottoms."

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        • avatar NEBaybeh

          Ugh I hate that mentality. Why can't men be responsible for themselves? It can's ALWAYS be our fault!

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          • If by "our" you mean "women" then that would be it's NEVER our fault. But hey, I've gotten myself into enough trouble today.

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            • avatar The Cabinet of Dr. Bobby

              Wait, are you saying the sentence should be "It can't NEVER be our fault!" because that makes no sense.

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    • avatar lucrezaborgia

      Ugh, who wants to bet she uses the Pearl's child abuse manual.

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      • avatar snowflakeundies

        I had to actually look this up... WHY IS THIS OUT THERE!?!?! A 4 month old?!?!?! I.I just. I can't.

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  13. avatar the cabinet of dr. bobby

    Side-eyeing a transnational adoption from China, considering the fact that China has well-publicized traffickng scandals, is known to falsify their adoption records (many "orphans" in fact have existing family members), and participates in adoption coercion that is recognized as unethical by UNICEF, the UN's governing body concerning the human rights of children.

    Side-eyeing transnational adoption in general, but you know.

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    • avatar coffeeflinging urbpro

      I definitely side-eye the adoption for the reasons you mentioned and also because it seems like the fundies who adopt are the least capable of handling a transracial adoption well. In my experience, they tend to be all "we are all the same, we are all the children of Jesus" and push under the rug any issues the child may have of being uprooted from their culture/family of origin, placed in a family that doesn't look like them, and often living in a world that's almost exclusively white.

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    • avatar Cuntalina Hittler

      I just started reading The Child Catchers and I'm side-eyeing EVERY adoption. That book is nuts. Or, rather, the book is great, but the people who think they can just swoop up kids and bring them to the US and teach them about Jesus with no regard for the child's other family or country of origin...NUTBURGERS.

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      • avatar Religious Nut Butters

        Yup, that book is pretty eye-opening when it comes to adoption, both transnational and domestic.

        I know my best friend in high school encountered a few of the issues related in the book when it came to giving her baby up in an "open" adoption, so it was definitely not all new information, but yeah, major side-eye to anyone who says they are adopting a poor baby from Ethiopia or who tries to argue adoption is the solution to abortion (um, no).

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        • avatar snowflakeundies

          My husband and I always talked about adopting, but I think I've had a very fairy tale ideal in my head of what it is. I did think it was weird when I found out in HS that my best friend was literally BOUGHT. I still have no idea how that was ethical. I will now have to check out all these books people are recommending! And I agree, all these bloggers talking about over seas adoptions makes me a little uncomfortable. It seems like a status symbol anymore.

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      • avatar Who am I again?

        "the people who think they can just swoop up kids and bring them to the US and teach them about Jesus with no regard for the child’s other family or country of origin…NUTBURGERS."

        Does that book mention the US church people who went to do "disaster relief" in, I think, Haiti, and were forcibly detained from leaving the country with a shitload of kids that they were claiming had been orphaned and they were going to find US homes for?

        I wanted to strangle someone after reading about that. I'd google it to see how many, if any, of the details I got right, but... strangle.

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    • avatar zhnjg

      Meh. China has a lot of issues, period. I doubt adoptions are uniquely corrupt. The problem is enforcement of the one child policy and the widely reviled chengguan, I imagine (google). China has domestic problems with child snatching, too. They're taken to beg on subways and sidewalks in cities. You can take cell phone pics of child beggars and upload them to a website; quite a few were returned to their families that way.

      But the adoptions of girls (seems always out of Guangzhou?) has a fairly positive reputation in China. Some of my Chinese teachers remarked at how touched they were that foreigners would come and adopt these girls as their own. You know, these often involve villagers where children can be tortured by a mentally ill parent and neighbors wont even intervene because it's not their place in terms of Confucian order. It's not so simple or easy to judge.

      The bigger problem, I think, is the sketchy (often Christian) adoption agencies and the really shitty screening of adoptive families. Because Jesus overcomes all....except when he doesn't.....

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      • avatar zhnjg

        Wait, sorry, I don't mean that villagers torture kids involved in adoption. I meant that the standard of living in villages is such that these sorts of things occur (eg. child can be obviously tortured by mental parent and no one intervenes for years on end). There's far less intervention and protection for children in general. I think it would be rather shocking if adoption administration somehow functioned perfectly, given the context.

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      • avatar The Cabinet of Dr. Bobby

        Yeah, I used to think that way too and then I started reading Land of Gazillion Adoptees. I don't think adoption is inherently Awful, but the way it's currently globally situated certainly is. (Not saying this to be combative - I suspect we agree more than we disagree.)

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        • avatar zhnjg

          I don't know much about int'l adoption save for my own two adopted siblings. One was throug the Canadian gov't and one was through a nun. Let's just say the first went far more smoothly.

          The China stuff is just what I observe. Everyone loathes chengguan. I don't actually know if they are specifically charged with one child policy enforcement or if it falls under another bureau, but the point is whomever is enforcing it and dumping kids in orphanages for a fee...that's just one small part of the sum total of corruption that they are involved in, I have no doubt.

          I have a feeling that some of these Christian organizations forge the home study paperwork. I've read some horror stories about fundie adoptions gone wrong (usually making the news when, surprise! Kids aren't orphans! Or, surprise! I killed my kid "disciplining their rebellious nature"!) and it never seems like they undergo the same process of psych evals and home studies.

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      • avatar DoubleEntendre

        There's only one set of background checks that are required for any international adoption (no matter which agency is performing them): from the child's country of origin, the US federal government, and the state you live in. Beyond that, different agencies may have extra rules (most commonly, families need to be of a certain faith) but that in no way exempts the agencies from ANY of the rules/regulations/laws set by the governments involved.

        Or maybe I'm not understanding what you mean by really shitty screening. I think there's far worse screening when it comes to naturally conceiving ;)

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        • avatar The Cabinet of Dr. Bobby

          I think the screening that she's referring to is'n't necessarily a criminal record check, but the sort of screening of cultural competence and general readiness for adoption that a background check might not encompass. Many fundie evangelical adoptive parents think "God will cure all" and "love will be enough" and "we don't see race," and don't understand the cultural differences their children will bring to the table. While a background check might not screen for those things, they're not trivial when it comes to parenting a child from another country. That's to say nothing of the despicable way many adoptive parents speak of birthmothers or act shocked when their child might want (gasp!) accurate bio-family information...

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          • avatar DoubleEntendre

            The entire state homestudy process (*always* done by a government-certified social worker) is geared around the prospective parent(s) "general readiness for adoption" among other factors.

            While I agree that many people aren't ready for parenthood (no matter how they get there), I disagree that it's focused on any one faith (or non-faith) group. Perhaps "the fundies" just have a bigger platform.

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            • avatar The Cabinet of Dr. Bobby

              Yeah... except it doesn't actually work out that way. http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2013/04/christian-evangelical-adoption-liberia

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              • avatar DoubleEntendre

                It doesn't work out.. .what way? The adoptive family featured in this article still had to pass a home study by a state certified social worker, still had to get required background checks (no way for a child to get an entry visa otherwise), and still had to abide by the child's country of origin's rules (however crappy those rules apparently were).

                Not WK'ing for anyone who abuses a child. Just saying that social workers aren't prescient and there will always be unprepared people who adopt or give birth to children.

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              • avatar zhnjg

                I think I read this, or a similar article (seems country of origin may have been different). Anyway, it involved 3-4 non-infant war orphans adopted into a homeschooling, homesteading fundie family. The kids couldn't read. I can't fathom why the social worker or whoever did their home study thought it was a good idea to place them in a family that eschewed social services and with a homeschooling parent with zero certifications in education or anything else as opposed to a family that actually made use of the public school system and all the services it could offer?

                I mean, I can't fathom how that occurred. That reeks of corruption to me. My parents were doing evals and studies for a two year period before their first adoption went through. They weren't the best parents but hey, at least they planned to integrate my siblings into society.

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    • avatar The Great Catsby

      Sort of related, but have you guys seen her "Journey to Guatemala: Knowing Olga" post? It's supposed to be written from the point of view of the little girl they sponsored. It's so sanctimonious, like, Imagine you're this poor little brown girl who lives in a small, dirty hut, and one day a nice white lady comes and saves you from poverty and you'll never ever ever forget her kindness and all that she's done for you.

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      • avatar Munchausen-by-drama

        Oh yes, how nauseating ... Let the lovely lady with the long hair show you how to wipe you nose, you poor little unsaved Guatemalan child.

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        • Here let me come to your country and feed you and build you a school and now they I got you here and I gave you all these great things I am going to tell you all about Jesus..... tumblr_inline_mq275iw5ya1qz4rgp.gif

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      • avatar Suicidal Pigeon

        Did she bring candy? On TV, the very nice white people always bring the poor brown children candy.

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        • avatar zhnjg

          Heheh....I bring the poor Kyrgyz kids candy when I stay in their yurts (sigh...don't ask). But they love that shit and the locals expect it. Yeah, rich foreigner throwing money around. Whatever, makes their day.

          At least I give them candy and notebooks. Not religion.

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          • avatar DoubleEntendre

            Oh good for you, rich hero foreigner makes their day tossing them shit as if they were sea lions. Those little brown kids are so easy to please.

            Let the peasants eat brioche.

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          • avatar The Cabinet of Dr. Bobby

            Bringing candy is actually a dick move if the community cannot afford dental work and dental care for the kids. Sorry.

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            • avatar zhnjg

              blah, blah, blah. Kyrgyz aren't brown; these ones happen to be Chinese. You clearly don't know what you're talking about.

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