Jessica Quirk, had a baby, continues the grand tradition of bloggers who want to remind you of all the things you should do for a new mom. In a post titled “10 Ways To Help A New Mom”, Messica lists her expectations of those around her.
Saying “Gifts for baby are great, but gifts for mom (and dad!) are even better” she goes on to tell potential well-wishers that fresh fruits and veggies are preferable to heat and eat dishes, and basically says thank you notes should never be expected.
She also tells visitors that instead of holding the baby or having a chat, they should perform some chores.
Mom doesn’t need you to hold the baby so she can vacuum or do a load of laundry. She needs you to vacuum and do the laundry so she can hold her baby. Period…Other chores might be to take the trash to the curb, take out the kitty litter, take the dog on a walk, shovel the walk (in the winter), rake leaves (in the fall) or water the plants (in the spring/summer).
Messica’s recommended to-do list for visitors is not limited to those close to the family, either.
If you’re a neighbor you could also help by bringing the newspaper or mail up closer to the front door!
And she includes another reminder to stop hogging the baby when he’s happy, because that’s HER time.
I also remember feeling like Felix would get held during all of his “good” moments and then feeding/changing time would creep up and I’d have to jump in again when I really just wanted to cuddle and spend time with my baby when he wasn’t crying.
Ya know, I get being a new mom is hard, and triply so after a c-section. But Messica has an able bodied husband. It’s not like it’s all going to go to hell unless the entire neighborhood drops what they’re doing and mows the lawn. And bring the mail up to the door??? Does she live out on Rural Route BFE where the mailbox is a mile walk each way or something? Why can’t her husband bring the mail in?
And seriously, demanding people only bring you food items that help you adhere to your Whole 30 Paleo Whatever is kind of entitled. Maybe Old Widow Soandso brings new moms c/o noodle caboodle because that’s what people did in her day. Is it so hard to smile, say thank you, let someone hold the new life for a few minutes, toss the offending casserole when they leave, and just say later that it was delicious whether you ate a bite or not?
It’s like bloggers expect to be excused of all basic manners and courtesy for others because they reproduced. Cmon son. Get a grip.