Before anyone asks where the Post Of A Million Outrages went, it has been removed. As she promised, Dooce has had a lawyer send a letter to me and my hosting company threatening litigation over the rumours of her filming a YouTube show in LA.
I was made to feel threatened by the next to last paragraph, which in my opinion implied that I could just make this all go away if I would reveal my source:
Since I refuse to do this without the permission of my tipster or a court order, I have removed the disputed post. The communication stated I am also “liable for all damages and injury flowing from such a publication”; I’m going to assume this means anything from hurt feelings to falling pageviews.
I have now stated multiple times that reporting on Dooce has no malicious intent. My opinions are just that – my opinions. As far as some pattern of attack or whatever, that’s ridiculous; Dooce is a celebrity, and my previous posts about her are commentary and reporting on information publicly posted by her and her husband and are reported as news, not a planned attack. Since roughly 9 posts out of over 1,400 on GOMI are about Dooce, I’m not sure how that constitutes some malicious repeated long term attempt to disparage her, but that’s neither here nor there. I’m not revealing my source. They are free to come forward themselves and ask me for her lawyers information if they choose to show they exist. The rest of you are free to assume whatever you want in regards to their existence.
For the record this whole thing could have been avoided by a simple email to me saying my sources were incorrect and could I please remove the post, and I would have, and quickly put up a post with her denial and a statement that I only posted what my source sent me and they could have been wrong. I would have even apologised. Instead she chose to go this very aggressive, public route.
Anyway, that’s that. The post is no longer public, Heather’s lawyer says she wasn’t doing anything with YouTube so presumably my source was incorrect, and as far I’m concerned this is over. Can we please all move on now and get back to making fun of Brit’s yoga mats and speculating on the state of Messicas uterus?
I do not understand this. At all.
Why wouldn’t she do exactly what you had suggested? (email, and say, no, that didn’t happen)
This just makes her look like a douche.
Please. She WANTED to get a lawyer and scare PP. She has enough money to do that now. i’m sorta glad as it proves what a gigantic piece of shit she really is.
She has to live with herself, and that is the worst punishment of all.
True that. Much as I snark about Kerf, at least I don’t have to worry that Glad O’ Baby is going to be born into a home of mental illness any more severe or damaging than being deprived of the savory joy of onions.
KERF sent a loller letter to PP also
Well I didn’t say a non loller letter-sending house : )
P.S. SHOW US THE SCREENCAP PLEASE!
http://getoffmyinternets.net/2011/kerf-is-now-suing-gomi/ltr-wright-091411-2/
KERF attorney letter.
Yep. Oh, the irony of this whole situation. As I said (at length) in the now sadly hidden post, Dooce made this story far bigger than it ever was to begin with. Most of us here, I’d say, are lukewarm toward Dooce, or, while aware she’s a raging narcissist and a hateful bully, mostly ignore her. I certainly didn’t care what the hell she did on her break.
But now–now that she incited an Invasion of the Assholes and succeeded in strong arming PP–well, now we’re entrenched. We now have the ultimate confirmation that she’s a terrible human being.
Goddammit. The reason I was invested enough to write several mini-dissertations in the other thread is that I didn’t want Heather to win this one, that I didn’t think she deserved yet another occasion to stroke her own ego by successfully shutting down criticism. And I really wanted to explain what we do here to those half-wit trolls, who seemed to have a fundamental misunderstanding of how the world works, how the internet works, and how criticism works.
I know Partypants is done with the whole thing, and I totally understand, but I can’t help but wish that at least the comments on that post could have been preserved. GOMIers were so funny, so smart, so skilled at pointing out all the trolls’ and Dooce’s hypocrisy and logical fallacies. Oh well–the Britney gifs and the inability of the Doocesters to say anything cogent or grammatically correct will live on in my heart.
I’ve been mild Dooce fan for ages but this post right here sent me over the edge. I just removed her from my Google reader. Heather, you suck.
…or GOMI could have emailed Heather to verify her tipster’s information. Just sayin’. Ace reporting this was not.
Yes Brainiac, if someone is keeping a secret, if you just email them and ask them to tell the truth they do. All criminals are caught this way too.
FFS
Yes, you do. And if they don’t respond, you say “I emailed Dooce, who has chosen not to comment.” And if she says something else happened, you say, “Dooce has denied this claim.”
o_0 at you likening this to a criminal investigation. Bloggers and reporters do exactly this, every day.
I cant stand her Hit her where it hurts. Don’t click on any links on her page. Don’t buy her books a d if you did leave a negative review. Complain to ikea and anyone else who does business with her. F her douchey bitch
This is absolutely the most childish thing I’ve ever seen on the part of Ms. Armstrong. I am so embarrassed for her.
Heather, if you are reading this, and I know you are, you are really pathetic. I used to be a huge fan, but I stopped reading two years ago, and I will never go back. I won’t give pageviews to an obviously deeply unhinged bully.
It’s really disgusting. Dooce is not even among the most ragged on of Gomi subjects and PP used the word “alleged”…so what’s the legal argument here? I don’t see one AT ALL.
I truly believe she takes joy in it – she felt intimidated back whenever she was sued-said something about legal system only benefits the large corporations, not individuals. She’s now a corporation and has the money to bully whomever she chooses. Bravo Heather – you’re climbing higher into your isolated tower.
Mark of a true personality disorder.
Bully and hypocrite.
She truly disgusts me. I can’t believe how long it took me to see this. Sorry, Alice. Hope you don’t lose too much sleep over this.
Hit her where it hurts. Don’t click on any links on her page. Don’t buy her books a d if you did leave a negative review. Complain to ikea and anyone else who does business with her. F her douchey bitch
Since your sources were actually wrong, and your post was untrue, maybe you should actually also say “I’m sorry for writing something hurtful that wasn’t true” instead of posturing as the injured party because a lawyer is calling you out for your lie.
And maybe you should go find something new to white knight about before I sue you for libeling me as a liar.
Amen to this. Or, how bout…in the immortal words of Heather B. Armstrong, you go fuck yourself.
Amen to this. Or, how bout…in the immortal words of Heather B. Armstrong, you go fuck yourself.@onlyconnect
Wait, so it’s WRONG for dooce to threaten to sue you, the person who runs a weblog that wrote negative and untrue statements about dooce, but it’s TOTALLY OKAY for you to say you will sue me for simply saying that you took the post down because, as it turns out, it wasn’t true (right?!) and you should apologize???
The hypocrisy on this website is astounding.
You guys complain all the time about bloggers who do things that are WRONG WRONG WRONG but just get praise and support from their website commenters. And look, not a one of your regular commenters is suggesting that you did anything wrong, but is offering you praise and support.
I feel sorry for you, whether the “tipster email” was real or sent by your own self, but you were wrong and you should apologize.
Jesus Christ. I was being a smartass. Do you honestly think I care enough about you continually calling me a liar and accusing me of falsifying a tip to litigate? *eyeroll*
I’m not surprised. If i had to live and work with my SO i’d go comteeplly insane. It’s too much pressure to put on a relationship.There are probably other issues too but just this in itself would be hard to make the relationship work in the long run.I think as long as they can remain friends, who cares? Children get over it. They’ll both have more space and freedom. Hopefully they’ll both be happier in the long run.Divorce doesn’t equal death.I reckon she’d be a pain in the ass to live with though so well done to him for putting up with her for this long. Snarky? Yes.Oh well.
“comteeplly insane”
I really, really hope this isn’t a typo, because it is comteeplly awesome.
Correction. HA says it isn’t true. If you believe her, that’s your right.
PP chose to take down the post rather than take on an expensive lawsuit. That doesn’t mean she lied or misrepresented anything. The fact that HA has more money for lawyers doesn’t make her more honest than PP.
This whole problem was created by the atmosphere of THIS website, which encourages people to make ridiculous speculations and believe the worst about people. Even now, you all are not even believing the simplest explanation, which is that the tipster email was untrue and the post was a lie.
partypants says in her post that what dooce should have done was contact her to say the post was not true and partypants would have taken the post down and published dooce’s explanation. That’s nice for you to say, but you publish a website that has said really terrible stuff about dooce in the past (and continues to do so in this very post). Why on earth would she want to contact you so you could publish her whole response here, given your history, and having no idea how you would spin the information she gave you? Moreover, she did publish on her own website that the post was a lie, and you obviously chose not to believe it; why should she think that contacting you in person would change your mind?
This blog and its commenters write terrible things about people here, and you think bloggers should treat you all like a friend and ask you nicely to take posts down? (And by the way, didn’t I read in the recent archive that some blogger criticized here had asked partypants nicely to take a post down and she refused?)
So, no, I don’t think dooce is being a bully here. I think the most reasonable explanation is that the tip was a lie, and dooce is telling the truth, and she is standing up for herself in getting a lawyer involved. Maybe because she doesn’t want to communicate with partypants directly, because from all dooce knows of her from what is published about dooce on this website, partypants does not seem like a very nice person.
I’m sorry, that was supposed to be a response to Brain Child.
@onlyconnect:
GTFOMI. Honestly, we call out bloggers on their crap. It’s a place to snark on the fashion bloggers who try to hard, the mommy bloggers who make questionable sleeping arrangements for their children, the twee “lifestyle” bloggers who instagram for a living and sell their soul for sponsorships, and yes, the nutty psychopaths who apparently have equally nutty readers. Don’t like it? Seem to mean for you? Take a deep breath, put on your big girl pants, and move the fuck on.
Damn it’s late for me and my brain is fried. Insert the word “too” where I mistakenly wrote “to.”
Honestly, we call out bloggers on their crap.
You do a lot more than that. You seem to think that you can say the ugliest things here – things other commenters on this site admitted in the deleted dooce post were unfair and unfounded – just because you can, because it’s yours and these things pop into your head and should be expressed.
One of the bloggers you’ve targeted most recently supposedly said something you called racist (I don’t even know what chacho means but fwiw urban dictionary says hipster facial hair) and then you guys went on for dozens of comments about whether or not her husband seemed gay to you and can you tell just from looking at his picture? Can you imagine the reaction of his coworkers if they saw that post with his picture? Can you imagine his reaction?
I’m sure this is nowhere near even the worst example of the discussions that happen here. I wouldn’t have any problems with this website if it gently poked fun at silly blogs or exposed blogs that promoted products without disclosing their financial payoffs, etc., but you guys really cross a line here. I don’t care if other “crit” websites do it, too. Take responsibility for what you do, if you’re so proud of it. You know that you guys say things that are unfair and unfounded, but as far as I can tell there are no guidelines, and nothing is out of bounds. Don’t you think some stuff should be out of bounds?
I don’t need this website to know Heather Armstrong is a bad person. Her actions show me she’s a bad person. She bullies anyone who questions anything about her. She jumps on to causes because they further her public profile, not because she is altruistic.
Heather, not a one of us are jealous of you. to quote Mean Girls:
“See? That’s the thing with you plastics. You think everybody is in love with you when actually, everybody HATES you! Like, Aaron Samuels, for example, he broke up with Regina and guess what? He still doesn’t want you! So why are you still messing with Regina, Cady? I’ll tell you why, because you are a mean girl! You’re a bitch!”
“This whole problem was created by the atmosphere of THIS website, which encourages people to make ridiculous speculations and believe the worst about people. Even now, you all are not even believing the simplest explanation, which is that the tipster email was untrue and the post was a lie.”
Welcome to the 21st century where, like the 20th century, and like gossip for-fucking-ever people have speculated on celebrities minor and major. It hardly started with this site.
Sure, it’s good to retract incorrect information, but Heather makes her life public and manipulates her image for money. Let me repeat that: She makes her living based on buzz about her life. This is just buzz. That she can’t handle that it’s negative buzz is her thing.
There were classy ways to handle this, lots of them: Direct email to the site from Heather, ignoring it (after all if she wasn’t in LA she has nothing to hide in any custody dispute or anything else), getting involved in the discussion in good humour “Sorry guys, no I wasn’t filming a YouTube video but here’s my latest…” would have gotten hits and been secure and happy.
Heather’s clearly off the rails between going and searching out comments for Monetizing the Hate and jumping to lawyer up as if the allegation were that she were mistreating her kids or something. Either she was there or she wasn’t; presumably there is NO REAL ISSUE and therefore it was a PR thing. She failed at PR and social media because if she engaged GOMI in a smart way she’d gain traffic and potentially readership. Oh well.
PP can apologize after HA apologizes for every ass behavior of hers over the last 11 years, starting with the co-workers she made fun of in her blog, her family, husband, children, and anyone she’s ever bullied online.
She’s a bully – can you not see that? (and actually, no, that is not rhetorical–I’d like your answer, onlyconnect)
This whole problem was created by the atmosphere of THIS website, which encourages people to make ridiculous speculations and believe the worst about people.
Bravo PP! You are single-handedly responsible for people talking shit about other people on the internets. Because we all know that before this site was created the internets were only used for good like searching google for cat pics and telling bloggers how fucking fabulous they are.
People who think GOMI is bad obviously missed out on the old days of Usenet Newsgroups. The newsgroup I cut my ‘net teeth on makes this place look like kindergarten. (Not that I’m saying GOMI is childish…just….mild? compared to some)
The whole internet is a cesspool. What planet are these people living on?
Why should she apologize? I don’t understand this. For eleven years, Heather has created an empire based on her putting her life out their for millions to read. She knowingly entered into a situation where she would open herself to criticism. partypants was told something and she BLOGGED ABOUT IT. Because she has the integrity to not reveal her sources makes her a liar and therefore she needs to bow down and beg for forgiveness?
If I may quote HA herself, written after she was fired for writing about her job online:
“I refuse to live in fear. I refuse to be censored. I’ve lived my life far too long in fear of disrupting expectations. I made a conscious decision when I conceived dooce.com that I would never bow to the intimidation of others”
(Source, so I don’t get sued: http://dooce.com/archives/daily/02_27_2002.html)
I’ve enjoyed dooce.com for years. It has been just recently that I’ve started looking around and seeing the truth behind some of her antics and frankly, I’m appalled. This woman uses the same tactics she has OPENLY preached against for a decade.
C’mon, now, Heather. You’re a powerful woman in a powerful position: use it for good. Not being a bully.
onlyconnect, it is wrong for Dooce (your ex-wife to be?) to threaten to sue because the 1st amendment protects us from suits like hers. She has sent a letter than misunderstands the meaning of malicious in libel law. I can’t tell you what that signifies- it’s bad. It’s really bad.
Her trying to remove a post assessing her manipulation of her readers is akin to an author trying to sue a reviewer for libel (that happened, the author is now reviled, and lost, of course) or a professor trying to alter his public “rate your professor” ratings- he’d be a national laughingstock.
So I think you should check around. I think most people will think threats to free speech are gross. I don’t think nearly will agree with you.
oh yeah…I think this is @onlyconnect is Jon as well!!
Which is sad, even after the way she’s treated him, he’d still be her lapdog.
My gawd…did they take his balls completely in that vasectomy!!? PATHETIC.
oh yeah…I think @onlyconnect is Jon as well!!
Which is sad, even after the way she’s treated him, he’d still be her lapdog.
My gawd…did they take his balls completely in that vasectomy!!? PATHETIC.
See what I mean about the atmosphere of this website? I am not dooce or jon. Also, I am not either of their dogs. I don’t know them. I’m a regular person who thinks you guys go too far here.
The first amendment speaks only to political speech and does not protect malicious speech…you can’t scream fire in a crowded theater nd you cannot maliciously attack someone’s reputation or livelihood and not expect reprocess ions from hat action.
Ugh. You have a fundamental misconception of what free speech is. The first amendment insures that the GOVERNMENT cannot, within certain limits, abridge your right to speech. It does not mean that people can go around saying whatever they want without consequences.
There is no government actor here. Therefore no free speech/first amendment implication.
Sorry to derail the thread, but this particular bandying about of the first amendment/free speech just drives me nuts.
@onlyconnect
“don’t you think some things should be out of bounds?”
You are NOT seriously asking when talking in reference to one Heather B. Armstrong!!!??
Um, have you read her blog over the past 11 years??!! Because I have.
You sir have a) are nearly formely married to her, aka Jon Armstrong, aka WHIPPED OR b) you’re just an idiot
I think what you are trying to say here is that, “Heather gets to say WHATEVER she damn well pleases and all the rest of you shut the fuck up…right?”
If @onlyconnect is not Dooce or Jon or a real life friend with Dooce than you need to get their dicks out of your mouth and start living a real life. Your pretend friends are turning you into a douche bag… just like they are.
In the words of Ron Burgundy….
“Go Fuck Yourself”
You do not get a say about church-shitting, etc. etc.
I think sending repeat texts to someone should be out of bounds. As should threats and offers of threats.
I think malicious letters should not be sent directly to people.
But as for words on a website… no, I don’t see a reason why they shouldn’t exist.
People on GOMI pick up on hypocritical and assholish behaviour. When the people in question respond with transparency and some degree of humility they often notice that people’s feelings about them change (ohdeardrea thread in the forums). But Heather’s response to critique really cements her as a figure of little worth and ensures that bad feelings about her will not dissappear, merely gather strength.
Did you know that you could go suck it? Yeah, I thought so.
Seriously, Dooce isn’t going to invite you over for Paleo cakes.
Fuck off.
@onlyconnect- Hi Dooce! Why not just post under your real name?
Right @OnlyConnect – heather wasn’t in LA filming a YouTube show – she was at Coachella at a music fest – says two difference sources, ALLEGEDLY.
Dooce’s splitting of hairs shows how mental she is.
PS used to be a huge fan – not any more.
Pelt, It was for Hulu. And I’ll sue your pelt off it you say otherwise.
You posted your opinion. You had your shot and you failed to changed the stone cold hearts of us meanies who exist solely to target the poor, helpless people who post their personal lives on the internet for money. Now leave.
Apparently I am now banned here and can no longer respond to your comments. When I try to do so from my computer I am told I am posting too quickly, though I have posted far less than many of you and not at all in the last several hours. And my last comment, which was nothing spectacular and contained nothing offensive or untrue, was deleted.
So in the future, you can no longer say you don’t delete critical comments here like some bloggers do. Also you continue to criticize me but I am unable to respond. So I guess I am done here.
Onlyconnect
You’re not banned, dumbass, that’s the server trying to keep up with replies and views. Try again in a couple minutes and your post will go right through; this has happened to me and I’m not a “banned Dooce supporter.” I waited 2 minutes, posted it, and it worked just fine. Dear God, you are not that intimidating and important that PP would ban you.
If this comment posts, then you’re right, and I apologize for my accusation.
Hey, it’s not just you, sorry. I set up a new server last night, and it is assigning everyone an internal ip. This makes wordpress think you posting over and over, when really it’s because you all have the same ip. Sorry for the inconvenience. I’ll try to get that fixed asap.
Hey, don’t apologize to me! Apologize to PP for libeling her by saying she bans people. That’s libel, you know. Srs bsnss.
@Party Pants – is that why I’m unable to “like” any comments that already have any votes now … do the gerbils that are powering the server (see how technical I am?!) think I’ve already voted if there is even one “like” vote already recorded?
BTW, more props for the grace with which you’re navigating this mess. I know you have an actual life away from GOMI (what a shocking phenomenon!), and I’m just really sorry that you’ve become collateral damage in HA’s quest to dominate (read: control and bully) the blogosphere.
Yes, sorry guys, let me sort this out.
Ok, seems to be fixed. Sorry about that guys. I was up all night and I’m tired, and didn’t finish config correctly before turning the domain over to the load balancer around 4am. I’ll sort that out tonight if I am conscious. Or this weekend, when it won’t ruin your work days. GOMI may be a little slow again until I get it back behind the balancer.
No, no, no, no, no. @Party Pants, no apologies are necessary! Geesh, you maintain this site as a hobby, out of the goodness of your heart (and wallet), and if the occasional technical glitch strikes … so be it. Hey, maybe we’ll all get a little more actual work accomplished as a result!
I hope you can get some rest very, very soon – both emotionally and physically. This debacle is almost certainly taking a huge toll on you, and it would suck beyond belief if you became ill because of the hit your body and brain have been taking. You sound as though you’re too close to hitting the wall today … please take care, okay?
And there you go, right there is the difference between GOMI and many of the bloggers that get discussed here: No one gets banned from commenting. Yes, there are people who cross the lines in their comments. They are often called out for it.
Interestingly enough, if you sift through the comments, particularly those about Heather, you will find a lot of people here who have expressed genuine concern and compassion for her well-being, They wish her no harm, they want her to be well, and her actions are clearly not those of a person who is at all well. But all of that gets overlooked and everyone who comments is lumped into one group and painted with a very broad brush.
People are entitled to their opinions. Not everyone is going to like you, and not everyone buys into the “if you don’t have anything nice to say” school of thought. Hell, if we were all just supposed to be quiet and nice no matter what, investigative blogs would not exist. Plagiarizing bloggers would never be exposed. Bloggers perpetuating fraud would not be identified and outed. The people being scammed by the MLM asswipes wouldn’t have anyoone advocating for them.
As much as you may have distaste for people who don’t like certain bloggers, GOMI and other sites just like it serve a purpose, and its not just to gossip or be mean.
The world doesn’t have to live by your rules or mine.
How does it hurt someone to suggest they have a YouTube show….?
I wish everyone who reads GOMI and has a Dooce account would go leave a negative comment on her site. I don’t have an account and I refuse to get one. She is a schoolyard bully. If she doesn’t want us talking here maybe we should take it to her site.
Please don’t go harass people on their own sites or email. I have enough problems.
Point taken. I wasn’t trying to cause you trouble. Just tired of her bullying antics. She was up to something or she would have refuted with facts. I’m new here and I like your site. I read some of these have sites and like that there is a place to discuss how completely ridiculous they are.
That just gives Dooce pageviews. Don’t do it. If you must read Dooce, do it in a feed or a reader. Although having to sanitize the comments would allow Tyrant to earn his rent.
It would not be posted. The only reason this website exists is because we little people were frustrated that all the big blogs are now so carefully monitored that there is no negative feedback, arguments, questioning of their motives, etc etc etc.
I used to LOVE to read a good discussion/argument in comments. I’ve stopped reading blogs that censor comments (other than obviously deranged posters who threaten, or reveal personal information). And I’ve heard a few bloggers complain that their page views are dropping. Hmmmmm…….
So is her lawyer’s statement TECHNICALLY accurate? Like, was she maybe in Coachella or some suburb of Los Angeles that’s not technically Los Angeles, or was she not technically filming “a show,” or was it not for YouTube?
I know… the wording is hinky.
I don’t know and I don’t care anymore. The whole thing makes me feel like I’m being strongarmed into revealing the source, and I’m not in the mood to continue fending off a shotgun when I’m armed with a kitchen knife.
I’m sorry Alice. She is just a royal bitch. Eventually, her tactics will come back to kick her in pointy fucking chin!
I’ve been waiting impatiently for that day. No matter what, I feel terrible for a family with kids or even pets splitting up. No, I want her page views to plummet and her to become so 2006.
…and with every tantrum she throws that day gets a little closer.
I am completely appalled by this.
Also, it would be great if anyone had an attorney in their back pocket who wouldn’t mind doing some pro bono work for Alice.
I’d happily contribute to a Paypal account for Alice.
I so wish that attorney featured recently on Regretsy would help out.
SERIOUSLY. Has anybody contacted him?
Yes yes, I agree so hard. Heather wasn’t in Los Angeles, she was in Indio for Coachella.
Wearing jorts.
She was definitely SOMEWHERE on her “sanity break”.
Or not specifically on the 18th…
Give it a year and then Vanity Fair will have an article detailing the soaring heights and inevitable crash of Dooce’s empire. Just a matter of time. Until then…tick tock
More like the SL Trib, which ended its profile of her in 2009 with this:
“”They also think I’m exploiting my family,” Armstrong said. To which her husband Jon, in the background of the phone call, cried “Help!”"
You got it. Build them up, watch them crash. It’s kinda sad, how low she has come. I wish you didn’t have to deal with this crap, PP.
Totally tacky, but I wouldn’t expect otherwise from Dooce.
BTW, what is up with your ad choices, PP? They’re cracking me up! I’m going to have to send you some of those Smiley Cookies with bacon frosting on them
Pretty sure Dooce is considered a public figure, and really doesn’t have a leg to stand on.
Word. I guess they didn’t teach New York Times v. Sullivan at whatever law school Dooce’s lawyer attended. Or, you know, damages?
How do you know it’s even a lawyer and not Tyrant! I wouldn’t trust it unless it had a number I could all and confirm it was an actual attorney’s office!
Not only that, Dooce didn’t exactly minimize damages–she instead posted it to her website and put it on her Twitter.
Jeez Louise, Heather, you’re a real piece of work. Instead of sending a nice e-mail saying, “hey, you got it wrong” you took it all the way up to Defcon 6. Way to go, as someone said upthread, this will just be another incident in the fall of Dooce, formerly Queen of the Mommy Bloggers.
Seriously the only reason I remembered I had her on Twitter was seeing that the other day. Which was nice, because I could unfollow. I thought I’d done it already.
What I read in that was – I have the funds and time to contact a lawyer because some website said something about me and won’t tell me who said it. Totally mature behavior for a reasonable adult.
There is a reason I took her out of my feeder over a year ago.
She doesn’t. But it doesn’t stop a sheister (sp?) attorney from taking a retainer and writing a dumb fucking letter any first year associate can write. Not all attorneys have ethics. Plus he can only be as honest as his client is to him.
This. Lawyers are desperate for work these days. This is an easy, threatening letter to write, and the client has (relatively) deep pockets and has indicated she wants to sue. So, an easy $500 or $1000, with the possibility of a long libel suit that would continue to enrich the lawyer. Win-win all around!
She said it herself, in her comments, she’s a “celebrity” with “fans.”
When she referred to herself as a celebrity I felt sad for her. I thought she was a “writer”. Calling yourself a celebrity sounds so desperate.
I had no clue who the fuck she was until I found GOMI. She should thank you for my page views and get over herself.
I had no idea who she was before GOMI either.
Nor I.
Nor I!
I picked up her book of the clearance section at BN last year. I had never heard of her until then. I must of missed something because it was awful and couldn’t get through the first couple of chapters. I couldn’t stand all the “poor me” attitude she had.
That reminds of the SNL skit where the guy says he is Twitter Famous…”meaning?” … “not famous.”
Thou doth protest too much eh Dooce?
I wonder if this is a move to cover Dooce-ean ass as she ramps into Divorce Mode & plans to screw Jon out of money and/or time with the girls. If she’s hiding sources of revenue and/or travel done while still married, it might affect the outcome…?
Good luck to Jon in those divorce negotiations.
Ah well, I’m sure she will play fair.
yep (nods) She’s always fair and honest with everyone.
Wow. I’ve been a big fan of Heather’s for years (buying her books, daily website visits, following on twitter). Her writing has really gone downhill in the past 2-years and, when the separation was announced, I was willing to give the benefit of the doubt as to her behavior. But I think this, after all the petty bullying shit she’s done through the years (Bloggess, sending her ‘fans’ to attack people on twitter, the maytag saga, poverty tourism, et al), was finally enough to make me go UNFOLLOW on twitter and unsubscribe via RSS. I like train-wrecks drama to a degree but she’s just over the top and I’m done. Get over yourself Heather. Sending a lawyer out due to hurt feelings instead of handling it like an adult? Real mature.
Sincerely,
Yet Another Former Fan of Dooce’s
Yeah this is pretty much it for me. I’ve been a supporter for a long time, but this is beyond the pale.
Me too! Been reading her site since 2004 or so and have stopped. I also unfollowed her on twitter this week (truthfully I was in it for the train wreck and not the forced attempts at one-liners). I’m done with her.
Who knew (tm CNC) that hypothesizing that Dooce was out of town working on something was so inflammatory and hurtful and malicious. Guys, please, please never imply that I am off working on something. That really hurts me. I’m truly committed to being an unemployed basement dweller and it would be really detrimental to my emotional and financial well being to accuse me of working.
GRUMPYRD IS WORKING ON A CURE FOR CANCER AND AIDS AND BITCHINESS
Zomg don’t hurt me
THIS IS WHAT I DON”T GET! (sorry but I had to yell) What is malicious about the original “alleged” statement. Filming a youtube video???!!
Exactly!! No one gave two shits where she was! She’s been lying to her “fans” for years. Remember when she was madly in love with her husband like five minutes ago? But this, this is what is making people see her true colors. She should sue herself for damages.
Such a piece of work. The woman has made a fool of her name and herself for the past 11 years on her blog and yet this is considered to be damaging to her reputation? Not writing bad things about her coworkers and boss? Not losing her goddamn mind over a washer? Not losing her goddamn mind over a news article or a blogger calling her a hobbit or someone saying on Twitter she was acting crazy? Not creating a persona that is literally synonymous with “doing something so fucking stupid you get yourself fired over it”? Not mining everything from her children’s childhoods to her husband’s vasectomy to her parents’ religion to her parents’ divorce to her shingles to the women of Bangladesh to her separation for page views, cheap laughs or sympathy? None of *that* is as detrimental to her reputation as one person saying she was in Los Angeles on a certain day?
Dooce, you are just such a loser.
Yeah, maybe the definition of “dooced” should be expanded to include self-destruction on all levels: professional, romantic, familial, human…
Someone needs to make “Dooce” the new “Santorum”
I can’t believe this is more damaging to her reputation than her discussing, in excruciating detail, her post-partum pooping or her husband’s vasectomy (and her delirious glee after both).
Or domestic abuse (throwing milk at John)
Or thoughts of hanging herself in her garage with a dog leash while her children slept. BUT THIS IS DEFAMATORY, YO.
Well, I have finally found something worse to go to than a comic book convention that is not Julia Allison’s birthday party.