Martinis or Diaper Genies (MODG)
January 15, 2013
12:42 am
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duckiedale

So now she thinks the kid has a tongue and lip tie. Okay, I'm a member of a hippie-dippy Facebook group of moms (they make their own yogurt, MODG; gauntlet thrown!), and every single time anyone posts a breastfeeding Q EVERYONE says it's a tongue tie. I had multiple people suggest that my son had a tongue tie when breastfeeding got off to a rocky start, but he didn't, and everything was fine after a few weeks of the normal nipple torture. My question to any LCs, nurses, doctors, etc. out there: Are tongue ties really that common? Or is MODG just adding another layer of unnecessary, speculative drama?

January 15, 2013
12:52 am
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Jo Bethersonton
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This might be unpopular because she has a lot of fans on this site, but MODG reminds me of Amalah a bit. I've been reading Amy for years, and she used to go on and on and ON about the tiniest little issues in much the same way MODG does. With a lot more self-awareness…but everything was TRAGEDY! WOE! We can't afford my kid's very pricey special needs school — or else, we can, but we won't be able to go on vacation this summer if we do! Stuff like that. 

 

Then Amy's dad got really sick, and then he died. And now her writing is much more restrained, things are in perspective, she's balanced. She doesn't freak out about the small stuff like she used to. 

 

The point being that MODG obviously has never had anything really truly terrible happen to her. I hope nothing ever does. She should try and find SOME way to gain perspective, though. Because it seems like she is looking for problems. Girl, sit back and enjoy your life. Because realizing in retrospect how good you had it is no fun. 

January 15, 2013
2:08 am
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hereforthefreefood
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Does she think people wouldn't be as interested in her blog (or kid) if everything was smooth sailing? I mean, I get having the occasional freak out when you've got a newborn, but for chrissakes, it's her second kid! Did she not retain ANY of the knowledge she gleaned during the first go 'round? 

January 28, 2013
11:19 am
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duckiedale

Even though it's not really that fun to snark on MODG anymore because her posts have just become different iterations of the same boring whine/humblebrag, I feel the need to answer one of the questions from her most recent blog:

Can someone get me the 19 kids and counting mom on the phone? I mean, I know she has Jesus on her team, but man alive, 2 kids is advanced mom stuff. And yet again, I think, like every family in the world has at least 2 kids. WHY DOES NO ONE TALK ABOUT IT? I’m talking about it. It’s hard. Real hard. Hard enough where I occasionally consider getting Jesus involved.

Because it is… obvious. It's so obvious that it's a given. No one talks about it because, fucking duh.

She reminds me of this friend I have who had a trust fund and didn't work until she turned 30 when the money ran out and she was forced to become a hostess. Every day she complained about work like she was the first person to ever have a job. 

That said, God, I'm glad MODG is being SO BRAVE and actually TALKING about this pressing issue of parenting being difficult. Bravo, intrepid trailblazer. Shine on, dumbass.  

January 28, 2013
12:50 pm
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Amelia DeLongpre
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duckiedale said
Even though it's not really that fun to snark on MODG anymore because her posts have just become different iterations of the same boring whine/humblebrag, I feel the need to answer one of the questions from her most recent blog:

Can someone get me the 19 kids and counting mom on the phone? I mean, I know she has Jesus on her team, but man alive, 2 kids is advanced mom stuff. And yet again, I think, like every family in the world has at least 2 kids. WHY DOES NO ONE TALK ABOUT IT? I’m talking about it. It’s hard. Real hard. Hard enough where I occasionally consider getting Jesus involved.

I don't think she realizes talking does not always equal complaining.  

I'd hate to see how much she would be bitching if her second baby was, in her words, a "drama baby."  She seriously needs to take a giant step back and look at herself.  No one wants to be friends with someone who constantly complains. No one wants to read a blog where a person constantly turns themselves into a martyr for everyday, normal "first world" problems. 

She used to be funny (except for that business about the woman who "stole" her wedding- that was just plain childish) but I have cut WAY back on reading her since she had had her totally unfair successful c-section.  How devastating.  I just can't take the CONSTANT complaining about how hard two kids is anymore.    I really think she needs to take a break from blogging.  Even her loyal readers are going to drop off if this continues.

February 5, 2013
3:49 pm
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duckiedale

There was a separate thread a few weeks ago about what made bloggers GOMIs, and the original poster asked "is it just success?"

I don't think success turns everyone into an asshole, but I think that's what tipped the scales with MODG.

Before, when she was just a wannabe internet fame whore, she was bitchy but in a lighthearted, funny, in on the joke way. She was always self-obsessed, but at least she was self-aware about it.

Since she's become a BFD (at least in her own mind and in the minds of all of her enabling super fans), she's been bitchy in a shortsighted, whiny, entitled way. The self-awareness is gone. 

It's not even totally her fault. With dozens and dozens of people kissing your ass every day and telling you everything you write is amazing, and basically falling all over themselves to just be one tiny iota as incredible as YOU manage to be without even trying, I bet it's hard to maintain perspective. I bet it's hard not to drink your own Kool-Aid.

Incidentally I could give two shits about what kind of skinny jeans are MODG-approved. I think I'm finally too bored to hate-read this anymore.

February 5, 2013
5:27 pm
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Victory Pouf

I think that's why this thread died down to a degree.  She's too boring to hate read.  Plus, I think the general consensus is that she is an asshole.  She barely even posts even more.  I went and looked and she has had 5 posts in a month.  That's not too great if that's suppose to be her source of income.  I think she is completely uninspired and probably exhausted.  Thing is, exhaustion isn't an excuse in real world jobs. 

I also think her budget is severely limited now she has two kids.  She hasn't done a things I want post in forever and most of the jeans she talked about she said she couldn't afford or that she heard they were good through word of mouth. 

I just don't think anybody even cares enough to snark on somebody who states/complains the obvious, having two kids under 2 is really fucking hard, over and over.  Mostly I just eye roll her blog and move on. 

I have noticed a lot less comments lately.  I wonder how her sites stats are?  I mean, your audience will only in there with you for so long if you only write once a week or less.  She started writing less before Ruby was even born.  I think her inspiration and love for blogging was starting to die before she even had to two kids to drive her crazy.

February 5, 2013
7:32 pm
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Derp Dynasty
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The whole OMGZ TWO KIDS IS SO HARD thing with MODG pisses me the fuck off. I have a 28 month old and a 6 weeks old and its really not the end of the fucking world, MODG. The tipping point for me is when she said that she hadn't been alone with both kids yet, and Ruby Sue was a MONTH OLD. Are you kidding? When my newbie was 2 weeks old my husband had to go on a business trip for a week and a half. I was alone with a 2 year old, a 2 week old, pets to take care of, a house to clean, etc. All while recovering from a 3rd degree tear and having a newborn with jaundice who had to go back to the hospital for labs every morning. All our family is across the country and our friends have lives and kids of their own. I had to do it all on my own. And to top it all off, my toddler and I both came down with the flu a few days into it. But despite all this I never even mentioned any of it on Facebook or anything, the only ones who heard my sob story where my husband, my mom, and now you lucky cat ladies. That's life, I'm not gonna bitch about it, everyone has horror stories about those first weeks/monthss after adding to your family. Anyway, I will shut up now. Main point: you're not special MODG. STFU about how hard it is and count your lucky stars that you have a husband who will put up with you and family that is close enough to help.

February 5, 2013
8:19 pm
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Derp Dynasty
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And I know some people think its "wrong" to speculate about their financial situation, but I don't care. It seems like they are having issues. She went nuts about how she HAD to have a girl, then she never even did a nursery for her, and I can't remember where I saw it, either her blog or IG, but she mentioned that a lot of Rubys clothes are hand me downs from friends or G. That would seem normal for lots of other people, but definitely not for over the top MODG who seemed so spendy just a few months ago. I bet she's regretting that Florida babymoon. eyeroll

February 7, 2013
7:48 pm
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iswhat
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I'm really glad you said this, about the two-kid thing. I mean, I'm pregnant with my second and I know it will be hard but fer crying out loud, it's not like people haven't been doing this FOR-EVER. And aren't you supposed to have some 'context' the second time around? Like, with my first, I felt like ohmygodshe'snevergoingtosleepever and of course now I understand that that sleeplessness, that round-the-clock care, it's tough but it doesn't really last that long in the grand scheme of things. I dunno, I know this is her schtick (I'm a relatively new reader of hers) but after going back and reading some of her older posts, I just think she's a brat.

February 7, 2013
10:10 pm
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wawa skittletits
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So, the baby is having trouble with her digestion and you take her to a naturopath *instead* of a pediatrician?

 

Your problem isn't yeast. Your problem is bad information from dubious sources. Also the need to feel like the world's biggest martyr for sticking with breastfeeding even though it was sooooo haaaarrrrdddddddddddd. 

February 7, 2013
10:34 pm
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exquisitespring
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sonika said
So, the baby is having trouble with her digestion and you take her to a naturopath *instead* of a pediatrician?

Your problem isn't yeast. Your problem is bad information from dubious sources. 

I could not have said it better.  Yeast overgrowth is usually associated with immune suppression (either pharmacological or as in the case of AIDS). I tried to do a brief literature search, and it seems that it can be a problem in pre-term infants (since infants' guts are sterile and they have no yet established healthy gut flora that prevents bad microorganisms from taking hold), but it would definitely be a more serious condition than a naturopath could handle.  What does she have against science?  And if someone were to suggest in the comments that she should take the baby to a doctor, all hell would break loose.  

TL; DR: I agree with you that the problem probably isn't gastrointestinal yeast; if the problem is too much gastrointestinal yeast, that needs to be taken care of by a doctor because something more serious could be happening.   

February 7, 2013
10:45 pm
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YoMama
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She officially lost me 100% today with that shit. Eczema is not a reason to eat nothing but meat and lettuce or whatever she's doing now. And why is her husband being tortured into this, too? 

 

I have nursed my kids. I understand the obsession over "If I eat this, will he react?" But she is LOOKING for problems. True food allergies to this degree would be devastating to the child. She would be screaming, not sleeping at all, vomiting, etc. Eczema could be from the dry air, laundry detergent or hell, a minor food reaction. But putting yourself out there like you are the World's Best Mom because you are cooking yeast-free food for absolutely no discernible reason is asinine. 

 

Look, go to your homeopath or your naturopath or whatever, but unless her pediatrician says this child is sick, she needs to stop with all of this. It's pathetic. 


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