A Practical Wedding
June 30, 2012
8:52 am
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Likio
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June 25, 2012

Hi Liz, thanks for clarifying about twitter, it all gets rather mysterious with private accounts.

July 3, 2012
2:11 am
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no loan blogger
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July 3, 2012

In the words of Meg, EXACTLY. To. This. Thread.

 

I found APW maybe halfway through my engagement and was like "sweet, a wedding blog that's not as opulent as SMP, not as annoying as Weddingbee, and not as pagan-handfasting-y as Offbeat Bride.  But man, is Meg driving me off the wall, and following her on twitter doesn't help.  I'm sick of her bragging about how she grew up in the rough IE (I lived there and it's really not that bad, and yes, you do have privilege there if you're white), I hate how this is her full time job yet there are constant typos and editing errors, and seriously, do you really need to continue bragging about your *prestigious* college education?  I went to an objectively more *prestigious* college and that is not what I bring up ever when trying to show how legit I am. 

 

I considered at one point doing a wedding grad post, but lately they feel so self-righteous and all the same to the point that they're even hate-unreadable.  At least this thread came out of the mess the site has become.

July 3, 2012
7:53 am
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Likio
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June 25, 2012

I'm starting to think that all of these blogs that have user-generated content (e.g. wedding grad posts), should be paying the people who are submitting them. I am so glad I never submitted a grad post anywhere before I started getting more annoyed with all of this.

 

The Sartorialist posted a call for people to come up with pairs of his pictures (people in outfits with similar themes – e.g. stripes) for his upcoming book. Oh really? That man brags all over the place about how much money he makes and he wants his readers to do some of the grunt work for his book? You can bet he won't be crediting anyone, either.

 

I'm totally fine with people making money off of their blogs, but I really wish that everyone was more ethical about it.

July 3, 2012
11:01 am
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brittanylarry
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May 7, 2012

OK, long time reader, first time poster.

After I read today's post about an "investment wedding," i knew I had to post.

What the HELL does that even mean? A wedding, by no means, should ever be considered an investment. What are you investing in? It's like calling an vacation an investment. Or a retirement party an investment. 

A wedding may be many things (and APW strives to characterize a wedding as more things than it probably is, in each and every way possible) but an investment, it is not.

It's like trying to justify elevating your wedding beyond things like a mortgage or retirement savings. People do it, sure. They spend the money on the wedding and then they can't afford the more practical things in life. But I've never heard it referred to as an investment. That's just idiotic. 

July 3, 2012
11:06 am
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ramonarickettes

I agree Brittany. But Meg and Co. really like trying to "re-claim" words, so maybe they are re-claiming the word investment. And what does that say to the people who skip the wedding, go to the courthouse and decide to "invest" in their marriage? 

That has always been my biggest problem with APW/Meg; the idea that a wedding is more than a wedding. Sure it's a lovely event, but to try to make it anything more than that (a community event! a reunion! the first day of our baby family!) is just justifying spending way too much money on ONE lovely event. And this is why I don't think Meg is any different than any other WIC pusher. She's just trying to be hip about it. 

July 3, 2012
11:31 am
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brittanylarry
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The worst part is I feel like I can't comment on that ridiculousness. I push the envelope at times, and have been reprimanded by the queen herself, but I feel like it might just get deleted which feels worse than just poking the bear and getting a response. I don't like to be censored. It gives them too much power. 

And you are so right about them trying to make a wedding more than it is. I understand you want to be unconventional and outside the WIC, Meg. But essentially if you throw a wedding and spend lots of money on pretty things that won't matter the day after, you ARE  participating in the WIC. I can really imagine reading something on the Knot that says weddings are investments. I really can. 

If you get married, you are married, period. What are you investing in with flowers and cocktail hour? 

July 3, 2012
11:37 am
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brownie
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March 17, 2012

Oh, vomit. It's exactly the same bullshit as Glamour or Vogue talking about thousand-dollar handbags as "investment" pieces. No, they are fun, frivolous purchases. Calling it an investment is a rationalization that you are about to spend more money on it than you can afford. Classic fucking WIC.

 

Meg is so disgusting, and that site is so disgusting, because its entire premise has developed into something that props up the very thing it claims to empower women to resist.

July 3, 2012
11:38 am
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ramonarickettes

Well, according to her highness, people are STILL talking about her wedding. I find this hard to believe, or even worse, people have nothing else to talk about with her, so they just bring up her wedding again and again. So I guess for Meg, her wedding was an investment, because she made a whole career out of it, and it gives something for people to talk to her about, probably without them being censored. 

And no you can't comment on APW unless you agree! I am really glad Liz showed up here but it would be even better if some of these very well meaning comments were taken to heart and the comments weren't so CENSORED. 

July 3, 2012
11:44 am
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brownie
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March 17, 2012

Also, people still wax nostalgic about my wedding, but I manage not to puke about it all over the internet twice a week. This is the first time I've ever puked about it on the internet in over three years, and the only reason I do it now is to make the point that Meg lacks all sense of proportion. Newsflash! People who love you love to see you happy! Of course they had an amazing time at your wedding! That doesn't mean that, objectively your wedding was an artistic triumph on the scale of the Taj Mafuckinghal, or worthy of constant commercialized regurgitation.

July 3, 2012
11:49 am
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Likio
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June 25, 2012

"Investment Wedding" makes no sense. What is the ROI?

July 3, 2012
12:01 pm
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tvsociety
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June 17, 2011

Is an investment wedding when the couple goes to the Justice of the Peace and takes all the money they would have spent on a giant party to buy a house instead?

July 3, 2012
12:12 pm
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ramonarickettes

The ROI on an investment wedding is that you have lots of gifts from folks like Meg who show their love by spoiling their loved ones with gifts the couple didn't want or need. So it's only a true investment if you are friends with Meg. 

And yes tvsociety! That's exactly what an investment wedding should be! Keep trying, Meg! 

July 3, 2012
12:32 pm
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brittanylarry
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TVsociety, you are so right. 


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