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Widow Donation Scandal Continues To Raise Questions

Five days after the internet began to question the fundraising activities on behalf of Jennifer Perillo, rumors are swirling that despite her protestations of ignorance and innocence she was aware of the fundraiser and even provided information to the campaign.

Jennifer attempted to address the confusion on her own blog but her comments seem to have raised more doubts about her level of culpability:

I had hoped to not have to disclose any of the personal dealings I’ve had with Bloggers without Borders over the last 72 hours. The coordinators no doubt had sincere intentions when launching the Fund for Jennie campaign, but you should be aware that I had no involvement in how the project was presented to the general public.

As you might imagine having lost my husband I was a little busy grieving and caring for our daughters. If you hadn’t noticed I still am grieving, yet choosing to share my experiences in hopes it helps others. To make an accusation against me without asking is a bit unfair, don’t you think?

That said, I am sure this is a question others may be wondering. It is for that reason that I will share with you my own disappointment in the misrepresentation of my financial situation. When the idea of a fundraiser was first mentioned to me, I said repeatedly that I was in no immediate financial need. I said there were many other people suffering far beyond myself.

Still, I was told people wanted to do something, to help me directly in some way, so I said if it made people feel like they could help, donations could be made towards my daughters’ college education. I do not know why the initial post didn’t reflect the reality, but you need to understand that I was not involved and cannot bear any responsibility. Would it have made a difference in the amount raised had the post been written to accurately reflect the fundraiser—that is something I can’t answer. I do know, and agree with you, that people had the right to be better informed

Unfortunately, none of this came to my attention until after the fact. I asked BwoB to donate a portion of the funds to a foundation that helps widows and widowers in true financial need. As of this past week, I even implored them to please donate all the funds to that charity. My request was denied. I was told by their Board of Directors that by law they were legally bound to distribute the funds as the donors had directed. If you contributed, or anyone else who reads this comment donated, you should contact BwoB regarding a refund. I do not know if this possible.

In sharing this information, I will also say that I will not publish any further comments of this nature. My blog is not the place to have this conversation. Any issues with how the fundraiser was presented, is an issue the donors need to discuss with BwoB. I regret having to cast any doubts on BwoB, but my feeling is that if even 1% of the people who donated to the fund feel betrayed, then they deserve a proper explanation.

So it seems her daughters’ college fund account info was available to the Bloggers Without Borders campaign directors, who chose to present the campaign with a word from Shauna of “Gluten Free Girl”:

As you can imagine, Jennie is overwhelmed not only by her grief, and the sudden responsibility of raising two children by herself, but she is also struggling with this financially. She just learned that she cannot collect widow’s benefits from Social Security because she earns too much money each year. The health insurance for her and her kids runs out in December and she just learned that the total she will have to pay will be more than her mortgage. It’s possible she’ll have to pay off the entire mortgage in one lump sum because the apartment was in his name alone.

And more than anything, Mikey wanted Jennie to continue living her dream of being a food writer. And he wanted to make sure his kids were taken care of well. That’s why he worked as hard as he did.”

This fund will help Jennie to do just that: to continue to work and take care of the girls with some peace of mind.

Doubts are being raised as to Jennifer’s actual knowledge about the direction the campaign had decided to go – apparently because despite claiming she was busy grieving with her daughters, her twitter feed was full of proof that she was online and busy informing people of her shopping habits and links to her blog. Many people seem to think at any time she could have addressed the claims of dire need and cleared up any confusion about the exact nature and intended use of the donations, but did not, thus any claims of no fault are ridiculous.

What do you think of all this? Do you blame BWoB simply because Jennifer is a widow, do you have doubts but think it crass to express them because of her recent loss? Or does the whole situation make you question everyone involved? More importantly, how should BWoB handle this situation, since no matter what you think of the widow, they were responsible for the public push for donations?




  1. avatar tankearae

    This bugs me:
    "Still, I was told people wanted to do something, to help me directly in some way, so I said if it made people feel like they could help, donations could be made towards my daughters’ college education. I do not know why the initial post didn’t reflect the reality, but you need to understand that I was not involved and cannot bear any responsibility."

    Okay, so she' saying in order to make people feel better they could give money to her daughters?

    Frankly, there are funds set up for widows/widowers, including the pretty high profile Liz Logelin foundation. While I get the jist of what she's say, why was she accepting donations at all? 70k to a foundation dedicated to people who really were in need under similar circumstances could have made a huge difference.

    ::shrug::

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    • avatar Colachampagne

      I'm left nonplussed. She makes too much for widows benefits. Enough said. My mom got money for us as kids, and it legitimately went towards our education and living expenses and we lived in the projects until I was 21. My mother was widowed at 29 and I can assure you no one took a collection for her. She didn't put up much of a fight I she provided the SSNs. If she wants to take a handout fine, but don't act as if it's out of your control. That's bs.

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    • avatar peach

      my first reaction to GOMI's article last week was: imagine what a difference the Liz Logelin Foundation could make with $80,000.

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      • avatar bee

        Same thing I was thinking.

        My sister was widowed with two small children almost two and a half years ago. She does struggle, but has managed to get by. She does, however have widowed friends who really have been on the verge of losing their home and were left wondering how in the world they would feed their children. The Liz Logelin fund does amazing work in an effort to ensure that people don't suffer these kinds of serious financial hardships after a loss.

        On another note, while I doubt BWOB intentionally mislead the community, the fact is that they did. BUT, despite Jennifer tweeting and blogging about spending sprees (or whatever) the days following, it is entirely likely she was not present to the misinformation being shared to inspire people to donate.

        The truth is people who suffer this kind of loss can live in an entirely different reality in the days and months that follow. I know my sister doesn't even remember the first few months after losing her husband.

        I can appreciate the example shared on an earlier thread about the widow who returned the money donated to her and had the presence of mind to write thank you notes to each donor, but I'm not so sure that most people would be able to do that under those circumstances when it can be hard enough just remembering to eat and to breath,

        That said, if Jennifer was as uncomfortable with the situation as it sounds she was, it would have been very easy to turn around and donate to the Liz Logelin fund (or similar.)

        As for what BWOB should do to remedy the situation? I just don't know. It's a pretty big mess, to say the least.

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  2. avatar C/O Coach Clodhoppers

    If it really bothers her that badly, she should feel free to donate the money BwoB is obligated to give her to the charity she mentioned herself.

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    • avatar liz

      yeah, that's what i thought when i read that part. that's kind of what i'd expect her to do if she truly felt blameless in this situation. also, if i had donated and my request for a refund WAS denied, i'd feel better knowing that the recipient of my money donated it rather than keeping it (though i guess there's probably no way to know for sure).

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      • avatar liz

        no way to know for sure what he/she did with the money, i meant.

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      • avatar liz

        KEPT IT, not keeping it. i guess i should proofread more carefully.

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    • avatar I'd Rather Be Sleeping

      I thought the same thing. Keep the money, and then send a thank you note to each donor letting them know that the money had been used to make a donation in their name to the Liz Logelin Foundation or something. Seems like a no-brainer to me.

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  3. avatar KAS

    You don't raise 76k without giving the impression that there's a serious financial need. Those running the fund should refund all the money at once, and start fresh on a fund that's honest from the beginning about where the money is going.

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  4. avatar KAS

    Here's a comment on Jennie's blog post, along with her reply:

    Jennie,

    I am happy that your children will be able to go to college without having to work for it but, if we are being honest, that is not why most of us donated.

    We donated because we were told that you were going to be homeless and the girls without medical insurance. There was talk of you having to pay off the mortgage on your apartment in a few months because Mike didn't put your name on the deed.

    The presentation was DIRE and effective. 80k in this economy is a nice chunk of change.

    But honestly, I have been unable to afford to bankroll my own child's college education (which is in progress) and had zero intent of doing do for anyone else's kids.

    I feel burned by this entire thing. I haven't bought new boots in years, nor taken a trip that wasn't to see a dying relative. You seem to be having no problems financially, even without the donations.

    I guess I hoped you were actually as needy as portrayed and, if not, would have the grace to give the money back to someone who needs immediate help to survive now.

    I doubt this will be published but even if you only see it perhaps it will make you think long and hard about all those people who couldn't really afford to give but did anyway.

    Ashamed to be part of this community today,
    A blogger you know
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    JP's note:
    Dear Blogger I Know,

    I sincerely wish you had left your name instead of hiding behind an anonymous one. The only way to achieve true action and results in life is stand up for what you believe in, and that cannot be done in the shadows as you are choosing.

    I had hoped to not have to disclose any of the personal dealings I've had with Bloggers without Borders over the last 72 hours. The coordinators no doubt had sincere intentions when launching the Fund for Jennie campaign, but you should be aware that I had no involvement in how the project was presented to the general public.

    As you might imagine having lost my husband I was a little busy grieving and caring for our daughters. If you hadn't noticed I still am grieving, yet choosing to share my experiences in hopes it helps others. To make an accusation against me without asking is a bit unfair, don't you think?

    That said, I am sure this is a question others may be wondering. It is for that reason that I will share with you my own disappointment in the misrepresentation of my financial situation. When the idea of a fundraiser was first mentioned to me, I said repeatedly that I was in no immediate financial need. I said there were many other people suffering far beyond myself.

    Still, I was told people wanted to do something, to help me directly in some way, so I said if it made people feel like they could help, donations could be made towards my daughters' college education. I do not know why the initial post didn't reflect the reality, but you need to understand that I was not involved and cannot bear any responsibility. Would it have made a difference in the amount raised had the post been written to accurately reflect the fundraiser—that is something I can’t answer. I do know, and agree with you, that people had the right to be better informed

    Unfortunately, none of this came to my attention until after the fact. I asked BwoB to donate a portion of the funds to a foundation that helps widows and widowers in true financial need. As of this past week, I even implored them to please donate all the funds to that charity. My request was denied. I was told by their Board of Directors that by law they were legally bound to distribute the funds as the donors had directed. If you contributed, or anyone else who reads this comment donated, you should contact BwoB regarding a refund. I do not know if this possible.

    In sharing this information, I will also say that I will not publish any further comments of this nature. My blog is not the place to have this conversation. Any issues with how the fundraiser was presented, is an issue the donors need to discuss with BwoB. I regret having to cast any doubts on BwoB, but my feeling is that if even 1% of the people who donated to the fund feel betrayed, then they deserve a proper explanation. I wish you peace, love and happiness—life is too short to settle for anything less.

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    • avatar Super_Nintendo_Chalmers

      She makes it seem like such an inconvenience to respond to a commenter, which she would be doing anyway even if her husband were still alive. Plus it's always nice to see someone use the tried-and-true "you're anonymous, therefore your opinions and feelings are invalid" tactic.

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    • avatar Never Tasted a Macaron

      "I sincerely wish you had left your name instead of hiding behind an anonymous one. The only way to achieve true action and results in life is stand up for what you believe in, and that cannot be done in the shadows as you are choosing."

      Yeah, I'll say it. She can go fuck herself.

      It's sad that her husband died, but she'd still be a cunty cunt even if he hadn't.

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      • avatar New Year New You

        And Jennie is standing up for what she believes in. She's believes she deserves that money. She has a "Dream Big" tattoo, thank you very much.

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      • avatar jpa

        Seriously.

        Especially when money is involved, some people may not want to give out all of their personal details, especially if it is someone who the writer or other people may know.

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    • "I was told by their Board of Directors that by law they were legally bound to distribute the funds as the donors had directed."

      Then shouldn't it go to help a widow pay her mortgage and feed her kids????

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      • avatar New Year New You

        It's bullshit, I used to do grant writing and it's up to the directors what funds can be used for. Even if they've been allocated for one thing in the beginning, they can be used for something else at their discretion.

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        • avatar Shrug Bitch

          I'm not familiar with grant-writing, but wouldn't the fact that the money IS being used for something other than the original purpose (paying for some rich kids to go to college, not helping a financially destitute widow and her kids) shoot any so-called "legal obligation" down?

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        • avatar yana

          Hi. Coming out of lurking to add a bit here. I work in non-profit development, advancement, whatever. I don't know the tax status of BwoB, but assuming they are a for-reals charity, the way they set it up as "a fund for Jennie" pretty well obligates them to give her the money, I believe. Usually an entity like BwoB can skim something for administrative purposes, but if people make specifically designated donations, they do have a right to expect that the majority of that donation will go to the intended recipient and the auditors should check this.

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          • avatar New Year New You

            They don't have charity status yet. There are currently a nothing entity. I've won a large amount of money from a charity (not for me unforch, for an arts org) and then have them completely pull it for their own financial reasons. Also, as the money was raised for her, she could dictate it be paid to a widow's charity. And as Albie said, if they are expecting to get proper registered charity status (ha) then no, they can't even raise money for "an individual" in the first place.

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          • avatar Albie Quirky (No Relation!)

            A 501 c 3, which they aren't yet but are hoping to be, can't raise money for specific individuals, and can't take donations targeted for specific individuals.

            So it's like their lawyers have gotten it backwards.

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          • avatar yana

            Ah, I stand corrected. I didn't know about the individuals part, but then again, I'm no nonprofit law student, not even part time in the evenings.

            And of course if BwoB isn't an official anything, then what's legal for real charities is all sort of moot.

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  5. avatar Sally

    So Jennifer throws BWOB under the bus and pockets $70/80K. Classy move.

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  6. avatar CR

    It's the internet, they're "bloggy friends", not call-on-the-phone best buds. If she really told them she didn't want the money, there will be emails, texts, SOMETHING proving those interactions if she really protested as strongly as she says she did. There's always some kind of digital trail. Screencap those babies and post them, then donated the money (not just a "portion") to a real widow's fund, and escape relatively unscathed in the PR department. Of course, if she didn't actually handle it like she said she did, that's a whole other story.

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    • avatar The Missus

      Oh, but they ARE call-on-the-phone-best-buds. Shauna and Jennifer are, anyway. Or were. Shauna posted about it on her blog, something like "I'm three hours later than Jennifer so I'm still up when she can't sleep and needs someone to talk to". Plus tweets encouraging Jennfier to call her. And greetings like, "Good morning, Darling" via Twitter. (Not kidding.) This seems to have slacked off lately. (Wonder why, huh?)

      The 3Many bloggers also got together with Jennifer in person to share meals and drinks. They tweet about it a lot.

      Unless you're talking about some other "they", then I don't know.

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  7. The whole situation makes me question everyone involved and I've already been referred to pretty much as a snarky widow-judging asshole for doing so. There are people who think you should never question a widow's behavior, which I think is nuts. Everybody is open to question, especially when it comes to donating large sums of money.

    If it hopes to have any credibility to do any charitable work in the future, BWOB should offer a full refund to anybody who donated and wants one. In the alternative, they should just disband. BWOB reeks of an in crowd trying to help only its own members.

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    • avatar Albie Quirky (No Relation!)

      They should just shut their doors and hope that people forget about their bullshit forever, after they give everyone a refund (or the option of donating to an organization that helps people in dire need).

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  8. avatar dingo

    I'm so sick of bloggers who think the death of a loved one is sufficient reason to be all gimme gimme gimme. They're an embarrassment.

    Up to now, I've blamed Shauna Ahern and the rest of moronic emotional vampires for fame-whoring themselves so transparently. Because that's what this "fundraiser" essentially amounted to. "Oh, we feel so bad for the widow! It's heart-breaking! Please send her money (and link to this post.)"

    But now, with her Gramercy Tavern lunches and new boots and Cape Cod vacations ... fuck the grieving widow and the self-indulgent food blog she rode in on.

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  9. avatar A Friend

    Im just hear to inform Alice Walker Wright that a suit of libel is being prepared against you for the posts about Jennie. It will be for more money than she got for donations. You people need to learn you cant just say whatever you want about people.

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    • avatar KAS

      You are hear? I here you don't know shit.

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    • avatar Nicole

      And you, "A FRIEND", need to learn spelling, grammar, and punctuation.

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    • avatar Super_Nintendo_Chalmers

      Go ahead. We have a commenter here named Angela who went to law school and she will KICK YOUR ASS in the courtroom.

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      • avatar Jordan is still the worst

        YEAH, you big bully. Angela not only went to law school, she ALMOST finished law school! She totally almost became a lawyer! Angela's gonna kick your ass, Nicole!

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    • avatar New Year New You

      Then we will start a fundraiser for Alice's LOLsuit, and we will raise $90,000. And then when we get all the money, we will put it into a grad school fund for her cats. So there.

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      • avatar KAS

        We, too, can raise money for non-emergencies! ALL THE LOLYERS IN THE WORLD!

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    • avatar RollsRoyceRevenge

      Im just hear to tell you that your a ass whole.

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    • avatar Ways2BWicked

      Well, we can say whatever the fuck we want because there's this little thing called freedom of speech. Ever heard of it? You so-called white knighters need to put the blame on the ones who organized this sham for Jennie. Stop blaming Alice! You dumb fuck!

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      • avatar AFGHANI the INEVITABLE

        You'd have to be spreading lies maliciously for this lolsuit to even have a chance. Does anyone here have actual malice? Doubtful. Anyone here just making lies up out of thin air? Doubtful. Most of what's been posted here is obivously true. This moron got nearly 80k in donations and then, far from being destitute, went and bought boots, vacations, expensive meals, etc. It's her right. But it's our right to mock that behavior.

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        • avatar Ways2BWicked

          @AFGHANI: Right the fuck on!

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        • avatar Miss Noir

          PLus, she even admits that her financial situation was misrepresented by the people raising the funds. Not to mention by publicizing the whole ordeal all over the internet, it's public information.

          I think Angela Esq. needs to school some people.

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          • avatar AFGHANI, the internet's premier KERF hater

            Angela attended law school, but did she graduate? It's not uncommon for 25% of students to leave LS before even the 2nd yr. Hell, most lecture sections lose 5-10% of students after a week or two of seeing the reading load and how dry the 1L material is. I'll admit to thoughts about dropping out after reading Pearson v Post (sp?) and thinking WTF does this have to do with Property?

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          • avatar Miss Noir

            She didn't, I was being sarcastic. Internet freedom fighters and those with a tenuous grip on the American legal system, really ruffle my reasonable person standards.

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    • avatar Albie Quirky (No Relation!)

      Instead of being hear, you should bee in a basic Civics klass because you no nothing about the law and how itt works.

      Hope it helped that I wrote that in your native tongue instead of English!

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    • avatar ants

      hmmm... how can Jennie have time to file suit against PP? i heard through the grapevine that she has been grieving. you know, she didn't even know about the donations until recently? for the love of god... she's been grieving!!! no time for anything else (aside from tweeting).

      also A Friend, why do you hide behind an anonymous name?? As Jennie said, "The only way to achieve true action and results in life is stand up for what you believe in, and that cannot be done in the shadows as you are choosing."

      sheesh, you people.

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    • avatar Tranny Sore Ass Rex

      Dammit Ahern, get back to your fry station, but clean your nails first.

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    • avatar WookieCat

      You write so well...do you prepare the emails from that Nigerian Prince who keeps contacting me? If so, please tell him I definitely want that 12 million dollars!

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      • avatar CR

        i love you people. i just spit out a crouton.

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      • avatar Albie Quirky (No Relation!)

        When you get it, I think you should donate it to Jennifer because she is sad and needs more sexy widow boots. Surely Dr. Miriam Abacha will understand the need for sexy widow boots!

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    • Yeah....no? Why don't you learn basic spelling, grammar, and punctuation first? Oh and the Bill of Rights. Then, when you've managed to pass you're 8th grade government and English classes, we can talk.

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      • Ugh. I just realized I posted "you're" instead of "your". That's what I get for posting from my iPhone in a bar.

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    • avatar AFGHANI the INEVITABLE

      Please file in Maryland so I can defend this for PP.

      Or NY, because I'm sure JFA would do it.

      It will take a decent lawyer about 2 hrs of research and poaching from EFF briefs and notable libel cases to put together a MTD for this POS lolsuit you claim to be preparing.

      Also? Fuck the fuck off.

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      • avatar Megling

        come on guys...they were just being "A Friend" letting here kno thot a soot was comming.

        imaginary poorly spelled lolsuits can be very damaging to one's sense of humor.

        Thanks friend. You're the real hero today.

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        • avatar self help

          hahaha "a soot was comming."

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        • avatar AFGHANI, the internet's premier KERF hater

          I'd agree, but PP actually got a letter from KERF's "lawyer" about 2 weeks ago. Some of these dumb people are just dumb enough to think a "soot" would have a chance.

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          • avatar liloletweeme

            A letter from a lawyer doesn't mean a heck of a lot. My hubby's a lawyer and he'll send letters (on letterhead without his law specialty on it) for family and close friends on occassion. Usually it'll work as people are scared to get legal letters, if it doesn't then the family member/friend actually has to go retain one. In this economy do you really think that your average blogger has the $$$ to retain legitimate legal counsel?

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    • avatar Meme

      Yes we can. Neener-neener.

      (That’s the free speech and neener-neener defense for those who might be wondering.)

      “Nose in air”

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    • avatar Runningfromthetruthtofoxnews

      I here that! Mo money, mo money, mo money! If there is the slightest possibility to grift some dollars hear, than she can't let that opportunity go.

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    • avatar bee_elle

      I wonder if "A Friend" knows that this comment is not sufficent service...

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    • avatar tankearae

      I'm "HEAR" to point out that yes: YOU CAN DISCUSS WHATEVER YOU WANT ON THE INTERNET. There is no claim here. Analyzing shady behavior is not an accusation and a false, libelous statement - it is a discussion, nothing more.

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    • avatar JFA

      PP knows probably a dozen lawyers who read this site and would give free legal advice in the event she is sued. Defamation is notoriously hard to litigate you stupid cunt.

      Go away.

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    • avatar twee

      I want to wear a suit of libel. Sounds fancy.

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  10. avatar I Bray for Pay

    Honestly, I'm gonna assign most of the blame to the morons who donated without bothering to ya know, THINK about the reality of the situation.

    I don't know Jenny, so if someone asked for money saying: She earns to much for widow's benefits, her health insurance runs out in December, she may have to pay off the mortgage in a lump sum.... I WOULD DO SOME FUCKING RESEARCH!!

    Oh, I'd think, I wonder what her husband did for a living?? And someone would clue me in to the fact that he was a NYC TV exec, and I'd know he had benefits which included at least 1 to 2 times his salary in life insurance. So that would probably be about $200k to $300K at a minimum. And then I would think to myself, surely the US has a safety net for children whose parents die before their children have grown, and whaddaya know, they do! Jenny will get Survivor's Benefits for both girls up to age 18, plus Medicaid to cover health expenses, if financially indicated.

    And what about the threat of having to pay off the mortgage in a lump sum? Well, that one I just happen to know is a lie, and mortgage companies can't force you to do that, because I read up on that when I was buying a house, but maybe if people googled, they could have come across the same info.

    So I'd know damn well that the numbers weren't adding up, and that Jenny more than likely will be cashing in a million dollar life insurance policy, too. No need to be weeping and wailing over poor Jennifer Perrillo skipping all over NYC in her #hotwidow boots (although I she was 15 years younger than her husband I believe, so she probably is desperate for some non-Viagra aided mattress bouncing. I think that explains her eagerness to move to swinging-singles Manhattan, instead of staying in family-friendly Brooklyn. Has she tweeted about first dates or a new boyfriend, yet?)

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    • avatar It's Always Shitty in Donkadelphia

      ...about the threat of having to pay off the mortgage in a lump sum? Well, that one I just happen to know is a lie, and mortgage companies can’t force you to do that, because I read up on that when I was buying a house...

      You must have skipped the chapter on ACCELERATION CLAUSES
      Lenders do have & often utilize option(s) to build-in protection; one (there are many) AC example: Should the borrower transfer the title to another party without the express consent of the lender, the lender can digress to the clause to be protected and demand payment for the property.

      Just saying ...

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      • avatar I Bray for Pay

        In this case Michael Perillo didn't transfer the title, he died. There is a difference.

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        • avatar It's Always Shitty in Donkadelphia

          Do you understand probate procedure, i.e. the process of transferring legal title from a deceased’s own name to beneficiaries or heirs, as articulated in a will?

          Assets that don't transfer automatically have to go through the probate process <-- that's a feasible scenario where real estate title transfer could / would be flagged & a lien could be accelerated, assuming such a clause existed.

          Lenders (who, btw, are not always mort co's) are typically shrewd mofos who rarely pass up an opportunity to accelerate a loan, especially a few years into it when the balance of pymts begin weighing heavier on the principal side than the interest side.

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          • avatar I Bray for Pay

            No I don't.

            But I'm sure Mikey's insurance covers it..

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          • avatar AFGHANI the INEVITABLE

            This is actually a good discussion (in the abstract) of probate and acceleration. However, it seems irrelevant here. Mike had a large life insurance policy or some other policy that would pay off the mortgage.... right? So there seems to be no point in arguing the finer points of probate as they may or may not affect this case.

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          • avatar It's Always Shitty in Donkadelphia

            LOL. I couldn't resist a chance to school the one who indignantly states that he/she " WOULD DO SOME FUCKING RESEARCH!!" & then proceeds to show how lacking his/her research was RE: what mort co's can or can not 'force you to do'. That hardly constitutes 'arguing'.

            The more real estate law, property mgmt, creative finance, inspection & appraisal et al classes I took in the eight years that I sold RE, the more I knew that I was a far cry from knowing it all, so I'm always amused when people consider themselves expert because they've been on one side of one transaction that one time. It's an ever-changing industry.

            Spkg of know-it-all, how is it that you & IBFP know for a fact that the deceased had a life insurance policy, much less that it was sufficient to pay off the mortgage?

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          • avatar itsdee

            I think IBFP is making some pretty safe assumptions, even if the details are wrong. I'll bet that NY is a community property state, which means that even if the title was in his name, she wouldn't need to go through probate to get the title in her name after his death. Courts have a very hard time throwing people out of their primary residence too. So I'm thinking that she would have a year or more before any mortgage co could get a ruling to get their money or forclose/evict her. In other words, if people gave it any thought they should have been wary about the "OMG! HOMELESSNESS!" type claims.

            I'd be shocked if he didn't have a large life insurance policy, she's basically a SAHM, right? He knows that he has three people he loves depending on his pay and doesn't think, "What if I get hit by a bus tomorrow?"

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          • avatar It's Always Shitty in Donkadelphia

            ...even if the title was in his name, she wouldn’t need to go through probate to get the title in her name after his death.

            If (IF) he died intestate, real property HAS to go through probate process in order to have legal title to property transferred to heirs. (An exception to probate are things which depreciate quickly, like a car, for instance.)

            Now, is she a SAHM, or is she employed & making too much money to qualify for widow's benefits?

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          • avatar Miss Noir

            It isn't necessarily about the "title", but the mortgage. If they still owe on the house and she is not on the mortgage, it is up to the lender whether or not they will switch the mortgage to JP, or if she will have to pay the remainder, etc. Insurance has zip to do with it.

            I'm on the title for our home, but I'm not on the mortgage.

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  11. avatar Helena (MORE BEES!)

    I don't know anything about the situation, nor am I really eager to learn, but surely I'm not the only one who finds this statement a bit unusual?

    "And more than anything, Mikey wanted Jennie to continue living her dream of being a food writer. And he wanted to make sure his kids were taken care of well. That’s why he worked as hard as he did."

    I mean, priorities? MORE THAN ANYTHING, he wanted his wife to continue living her dream of being a food witer.... oh, and he wanted to make sure that his kids were taken care of AS WELL. I would think that most parents would consider their children's wellbeing a tad more important than their SO's ability to continue living their dream of writing a blog, but maybe I'm just too fat and ugly to understand.

    Just to clarify, I don't think that quote says anything about the widow or her late husband, it just makes me wonder about the person who wrote it. A little bit, that is.

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    • avatar Shrug Bitch

      This isn't some far-fetched dream of hers as she works a boring, unrelated office job during the day and plugs away at her little ol' Blogspot blog by night, daring to dream one day of writing a cookbook or working for Gourmet -- SHE ALREADY IS A WELL-ESTABLISHED FOOD WRITER. SHE DOESN'T NEED ANYBODY'S HELP TO CONTINUE DOING HER JOB.

      I'm sorry, GFG's hysteria brings out the ragies in me.

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      • avatar New Year New You

        GO AHEAD LET IT OUT! And why does she have a "Dream Big" tattoo? She has two daughters, a job, a blog, an apt, a life insurance payout, and a spare $80k, what the fuck else does she want? She'll be married again in 5 years, guarantee it.

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      • avatar liloletweeme

        "SHE ALREADY IS A WELL-ESTABLISHED FOOD WRITER."

        And that, right there, is why (imho) she got the help from BWOB to begin with. If she were some rinky dink food blogger with 20 Twitter followers, a small readership, no advertising, and no food world connections do you think the foodie community would rally around her to help? I highly doubt it. I don't know about other blogging communities, but the food bloggers are like the mean, popular girls in high school: if you aren't cool or can't further their cause then no one cares (just read about the big f.b'ing conference in Atlanta this year, there were so many posts from bloggers who felt ostracized and rudely treated.).

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        • avatar Shrug Bitch

          Oh I totally believe that -- a bunch of people on the forum who have been to HLB conferences say similar things. The only difference between the two communities is one runs and the other cooks with butter.

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        • avatar DrCP

          Links, please!

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          • avatar liloletweeme

            Lemme see what I can dig up (I'm out all day tomorrow though); I know for a fact that at least 2 were removed shortly after they were posted and I can only speculate as to why. I also have several friends who attended who told me first hand the same exact thing, but never bothered to mention it on their blogs for fear of offending anyone.

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          • avatar DrCP

            Thanks!

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      • avatar Helena (MORE BEES!)

        Even if she DID have to work a boring unrelated office job and only dreamt of becoming a ZOMG food writer one fine day.... I'd still think that my children's wellbeing would be somewhat higher on my list of priorities than securing my partner's ability to follow his dreams. So the "more than anything / as well" part of the quote kind of gave me pause, is all.

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        • avatar AhHello

          Well, just to be fair, the post actually says: "And he wanted to make sure his kids were taken care of well." Not "as well"; "well." It's poor sentence structure, yeah, but it's not saying, "Oh, yeah - and his kids were important to him, too."

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          • avatar Helena (MORE BEES!)

            You're right, I misread that. I think the "more than anything" just jumped out at me.

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  12. avatar Miss_Hannigan

    The blamehammer needs to squash all three entities equally- GFG, Perillo and BWOB. Though I can't help but think if they only raised $5000, we wouldn't be having this crazy discussion.

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  13. avatar Jordan is still the worst

    That's rich. She disparages the woman who raised $80K for her while simultaneously grabbing at the money with both hands.

    I'd seriously think about calling a local news station in NYC. The evening news loves this kind of stuff. I can see the headlines now: "Rich UWS food writer accepts $80K in donations after huband's death."

    Wow, that would piss people off.

    Jenny, you should seriously never show your face in public again. This is beyond embarrassing for you.

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    • avatar AFGHANI the INEVITABLE

      I haven't really followed this from the beginning (sorry, real life desk erranding interfering with GOMI!)

      Can someone answer a few q's?
      - This woman lives a really good life already, right?
      - She's getting a huge life insurance payout, right?
      - She already has a pretty easy, good job, right? She's not slavign awayat some low paying, high-energy career, right?

      All this charity, in this case, seems wasted.... an act of vanity at best.

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