ReShonda Tate Billingsley, mom, has a 12 year old daughter. Like many parents today, she monitors her tween’s online activities:
For all you new-age parents who say I’m violating my daughter’s privacy, you might want to stop reading now, because I’m really about to piss you off. In my house, the only people that are due any privacy are me and my husband. I make it clear that when they get their own place and pay their own bills, then and only then will I respect their privacy.
Well it seems recently during her nightly check in of her daughter’s instagram, she saw a picture of her child holding up a bottle of vodka with the caption “Wish I could drink this Vodka.” So ReShonda did what many mothers would do to a soon-to-be teenager who was being ridiculous – publicly chastised her for acting like a dumbass.
She had been warned against acting up on social media countless times but obviously, it wasn’t getting through. So I took it to her level, implementing my motto of “Get tore out where you show out.” I made her hold up a sign saying, “Since I want to take pics holding liquor, I am obviously NOT ready for social media and will be taking a hiatus until I learn what is and isn’t appropriate to post. Bye-Bye :( ” I made her post the picture to Instagram and I put it on my Facebook page as a warning to other parents to monitor their kids.
Apparently ReShonda’s method of punishment has gone viral with over 10,000 shares. ReShonda’s response to those who may have a problem with her reaction makes it clear that she felt it was her last resort:
When it comes to my kids, I don’t play. This is a new age. We have to meet kids where they are. Punish her by taking away her phone? Did that last week. Make her write an essay? She loves writing so that would be a thrill. Ban TV? She loves to read so that’s no big deal. Talking? Sure, but my talking obviously wasn’t sticking. So, since she showed out on line, she was punished on line.
I hate when bloggers post something and then ask “What do YOU think?” but I’m really curious what you GOMIers think about this. When I was 12 and acted out it was embarrassing enough to be disciplined in front of my friends. I can’t imagine being disciplined in front of the entire planet. But part of me wants to tell ReShonda “you go girl” for using the medium of her daughter’s behavior as a punishment.
So what do you think about this? Punishment fitting the crime, or just another way for moms to humilate their kids online?