Marital Bless
May 28, 2013
8:23 pm
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CatShitCray
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Marital Bless has been getting on my nerves ever since she kept complaining about them having no money and wanting a third baby but not being able to because of finances. Then, she announced she was preggo again and, instead of being happy, flipped the F out when she found out it was a girl (she has two boys). She made some pretty awful posts about how her idea of "god's plan" for her was  three boys and she didn't know "how to be a mom to a girl". I know some WK would say she was being "transparent" but jesus balls she sounds like the most whiny and ungrateful blogger out there. Everything is a complaint and she's just another blogger who thinks she has the most OMGhighneeds family ever. drool

 

Has anyone else read her?

May 29, 2013
3:23 pm
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ritzcrackers
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May 29, 2013

I read Marital Bless and she is annoying as hell! Seriously is there anything in life that goes smoothly for this girl or that she doesn't over think? Poor baby can't find anything to wear shutupsighyou just had a baby.

May 29, 2013
5:43 pm
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CatShitCray
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I completely lost my mind when the ultrasound tech said it was a girl and they did the MASSIVE gender reveal thing at the xmas tree farm where they acted so happy! so BLESSED! JESUS IS GREAT! and then she wrote another post about how they were going to pay a bajillion dollars (while posting about being broke) for a 3D ultrasound because they thought the sonographer was wrong because clearly her distaste for a baby girl trumped radiology training.

 

EVERYTHING with her is just so dramatic. I loved when the kids were supposedly omgSOSICK and she was pregnant and yet she had time/energy to post so many up close selfies of her and her sick kids laying on her. I can't imagine my mom photographing us as kids when we had the stomach flu. PUT YOUR F'ING PHONE DOWN.

 

So glad I'm not the only one who hate reads her hahaha drunk

May 30, 2013
8:02 am
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mini-quiche
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April 23, 2012

Yeah her posts about money and living frugally don't vibe with her shopping habits.  She's not crazy over the top with her spending or anything but it's weird when she talks about things being SO tight, to the penny, and then off to Target for a new outfit. 

 

She's weird about the girl thing.  Like she was so 'scared' to have a daughter, then would have been disappointed if it wasn't a girl, then it was a girl and she was relieved, now she's over the top gushy about 'baby sweets'.  I don't know, just comes off sort of strange to me to place SO MUCH EMPHASIS on the gender of your baby.  Have a 3rd baby because you want another child, you know?  She seems obsessed with it. 

 

She hasn't been blogging much lately but I follow her on Instagram and she's a lot more active on there.  She teeters on GOMI/SOMI for me.

May 30, 2013
10:17 am
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ritzcrackers
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I think what gets me is that she makes every day life little struggles into these huge OMG feel bad for poor little me situations.  Like her anatomy scan with her daughter.  They were late and they were told they had to reschedule but they would accept that answer and they tech finally told them she would take them over her lunch.  Then she wonders why the tech was then then happy go lucky with them during their scan. Then the huge gender reveal made me want to bang my head against the wall a thousand times.angry

 

Then there's the pink thing.  She refuses to let her daughter wear pink because she doesn't like the color.  Good luck with that when she hits about 3-4 years old and is obsessed with all things Disney princess.

May 30, 2013
2:55 pm
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CatShitCray
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" don't know, just comes off sort of strange to me to place SO MUCH EMPHASIS on the gender of your baby.  Have a 3rd baby because you want another child, you know?  She seems obsessed with it. "

 

That was my point. Idon't really understand having another baby if you have two boys already and you want to be a mother of boys. Why risk it? She said soemthing about how if you have two of the same gender in a row, you're almost gauranteed to have the third be the same. That's absolutely based on nonsense and it's one of those "medical facts" that allow people like that to be disillusioned and feel cheated. I'm not sure she mentioned the miscarriage, but that baby was a boy too and maybe that's partly why she expected boy again?  Bottom line? Your baby had ten fingers and ten toes at the anatomy scan and was perfectly healthy. THAT'S a miracle. Be happy.

Her kids are all incredibly beautiful too– the whole family is. I mean seriously…that baby girl is just so beautiful. Just be happy. BE HAPPY. Especially if you're going to blog about it. I'm all for bloggers who "keep it real" (althought that term is losing its meaning fast), but it's okay t actually be positive and feel lucky once in a while too.

 

And yes, that gender reveal was so over the top. If she had been over(miriam!)JOYed about having a girl, I would have been okay with it. But it was all such an act sandwiched between two posts about not wanting a girl. And all she did was bitch bitch bitch about how it was too cold and she couldn't find the sweater she saw on some pinterest board. IF IT WAS TOO COLD, CHANGE UP YOUR PLAN. Contrary to her belief (and hope), the gender of her baby wasn't going to change so bumping it back a week would have been fine. lol

July 16, 2013
10:08 am
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mini-quiche
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April 23, 2012

Post directed right to GOMI today:

"The lack of blogging recently hasn't been entirely due to wedding season, two under two plus one or my return to work. Thanks to google alerts, which I set up years ago and never found to be much use for anything, I stumbled across some unkind words directly related to me.

They gave me major pause.

At first, I was enraged, then embarrassed, then just extremely hurt and sad, to be so misunderstood. Well, some things were misunderstood, others . . . I'm not sure why they even read if they dislike who I am as person so very much.

So I stepped away, blogging only the bare minimum.

Photo dump here.

Milestone post there.

The residual problem of slowing down my posts will only effect me in the future though. See, I don't have scheduled "content," I don't do guest bloggers to keep the traffic coming and I usually hit publish just as soon as the final period ends the sentence, because this blog from the beginning has always been for me. It's not a business or a brand. It's where I sort through my feelings, with the methodical tapping of keys. That's why I may contradict myself from one day to another, one year to another, because I'm not crafting a story, I'm sharing messy words of an imperfect woman.

I don't want to shirk from posting any longer, as the archives of this blog are absolutely treasured to me. I don't want the memories of this time in our lives as a new family of five to slowly disappear, as they will, if I don't write them down."

July 16, 2013
3:04 pm
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ritzcrackers
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May 29, 2013

Yeah, don't think I misunderstand some of her postssfun_nopity

July 16, 2013
5:34 pm
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Gretchen Wieners
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I appear to be in the minority here but she's a SOMI for me. Maybe I glossed over her gender/baby #3 posts a bit but nothing really annoys me about her. So what if they have financial concerns, who doesn't?! If they want another baby, then go for it. Expenses don't seem to be an issue and that's great if that's the case!

July 16, 2013
8:37 pm
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Finding More Funds A

I always got the impression that she really really really wanted a girl. I thought the gender reveal was a little over the top but whatever, lots of blogs can be a bit overboard and lets be honest if it was just average then you really would have no interest in reading them. I liked this gender reveal a lot more then the last one that was tied in with pancakes and berries though.

 

I think my only complaint was the whole identity of her being a "boy mom". More then once I felt a bit alienated by her blog with how she seemed so defined by the fact that she had 2 sons. I just don't understand the point of categorizing moms further then they already are, stay at home/ working, breastfeeding/formula feeding. "Boy moms" seem to try and sell you on the fact that they love it but I can't help but feel like they are trying to convince you along with themselves that its the best situation, which is just kind of bizarre. I don't know her (marital bless) well enough to know if that is actually how she feels, I just am not a fan of yet another mom title. 

July 17, 2013
12:54 am
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Aubrey

wednesdayschild said
I always got the impression that she really really really wanted a girl. I thought the gender reveal was a little over the top but whatever, lots of blogs can be a bit overboard and lets be honest if it was just average then you really would have no interest in reading them. I liked this gender reveal a lot more then the last one that was tied in with pancakes and berries though.

 

I think my only complaint was the whole identity of her being a "boy mom". More then once I felt a bit alienated by her blog with how she seemed so defined by the fact that she had 2 sons. I just don't understand the point of categorizing moms further then they already are, stay at home/ working, breastfeeding/formula feeding. "Boy moms" seem to try and sell you on the fact that they love it but I can't help but feel like they are trying to convince you along with themselves that its the best situation, which is just kind of bizarre. I don't know her (marital bless) well enough to know if that is actually how she feels, I just am not a fan of yet another mom title. 

I was a boy Mom.  I am not a girly girl and despite being in a family of women, even all of my cousins are girls, I wanted sons. I have 3, 2 of which are bio sons and I prayed and prayed they would be boys.  Then I unexpectedly got pregnant when my boys were older and found out we were having a girl.  I was sick with worry.  I didn't have a clue what to do with a girl.  Now that she's here, she's a great blend of girly girl and being able to hang with her brothers I am so thankful she was a girl.  If she would have been a boy though, I would never have felt like I was missing something. Nevertheless, I used to read her a lot but quit right before she had her second son.  She's not really a GOMI for me but I just lost the ability to relate to her for some reason.  Maybe because she seemed negative.

July 19, 2013
3:39 pm
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CatShitCray
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May 28, 2013

Saw her post and knew it was about this.

 

Nobody ever said for her to stop posting, but maybe it did give her pause to realize she's so so so lucky to have the family she does and that she came across as completely unrelateable to be complaining about a baby being a GIRL. She seems to have changed her tune since Miri was born which is definitely a relief. But to be that baby girl someday and see those posts? That would really suck.

And to address her directly as to why we read her still– most of the time a blog ends up on GOMI because readers who once loved the blog post about it when it changes or the writer becomes entitled or negative. It's not random people who stumble across your blog, hate read for a week, and then post.

 

I guess I don't understand gender complaints when people are lucky enough to have at least one of each. I would have at least understood if she had really wanted a son to carry on her husband's family name and had a bunch of daughters. But, from what I've experienced, when a baby is deemed HEALTHY and you see their little face on the ultrasound screen, you love THAT baby– not some vision of your family you dreamed up in your head.

 

I think bloggers just have a way of coming across as being so dissapointed when life doesn't abnormally work out to deliver their perfectly crafted visions. Yes, be a little disappointed. Fine. But, to make weeks of posts about it? shutupsigh

December 30, 2013
11:37 am
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mini-quiche
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I find her a bit grating at times but I am impressed with her realizing her goal to stay home and do photography FT.  She is talented and that was a humble blog post about the hard work it took to get here.  She can SOMI in my books.


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