Healthy Alternative's bf hijacks her blog
May 1, 2013
9:54 am
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Shrug Bitch
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Not sure if anybody else reads Healthy Alternative, but she was a SOMI for me while she was posting – good photography, delicious food, no weird HLB bullshit. So anyway, she has a kid and has stopped blogging but then this pops up in my reader yesterday:

http://healthyalternative.tumblr.com/post/49272655666/it-has-slipped

Hey all,

    I have some bummer news that I feel I need to share with you all. Since getting back together with my boyfriend I have lost my drive to eat healthy. Dont get me wrong, I still want to, but I cant get beyond just saying it. I have trouble taking action. I havent exercised in almost a year. I took up smoking again after quitting for a real long time. I have had a child and still have baby weight, but that is only partially the excuse for my being as big as I currently am. I want to cook every night, but am so exhausted after work that 9 out of 10 nights I go for McDonalds or Chinese food. My boyfriend has been really supportive and has tried dieting with me, but I just cant seem to stay on course. I am up around 180lbs and my boyfriend has begun to get turned off from me sexually due to my weight and lack of motivation. When we got together I was fit and ambitious. Now I am lazy and unmotivated. This blog has gone to shit. My relationship has gone to shit. I dont have a clue as to how I was able to balance my bf, job and life before. I surely cant come close now. 

My boyfriend is leaving me today because I am unwilling to quit smoking. He has battled with it for years, and it really effects him. This last time he tried quitting smoking I was so worried that he was going to get grumpy that I didnt talk to him, didnt support him, and decided to go out drinking with friends to be away from him. If I had only been there to give him a back rub and a little “You’ll get thru this” and “quitting isnt easy, but you’re doing great” he would have greeted me with a smile when I got home today. Instead he was gone. I have completely flipped from being a loving, sexual, attractive, athletic blog enthusiast to a lazy, uninspired worker that does nothing more than pass out after getting home from work. 

My bf got mad at me the other week when he planned a photo shoot with a friend after I got off work. I forgot about it and ended up going out for a drink with my boss (who I have a history with). Bryan was frustrated that he missed his shoot, and was unable to give his friend a heads up that he wasnt going to be able to make it. On top of that, I forgot that he told me that he wasnt comfortable with me going out for drinks with this person. If I would have thought to call him before-hand he would have been fine with it, but I didnt. I forgot that this was one thing that was very important to him and I should have called. Ive been a shitty girlfriend. 

My boyfriend has been under a lot of stress being a stay-at-home dad, and my leaving him home all day then coming home smelling like cigarettes, eating gross chinese food then passing out before fulfilling his sexual needs (for weeks) has driven him away. Its gotten so bad that he doesnt even want to cuddle me at night. I am regretful that I have let it slip this much. :(

But then a few hours later she posts this (emphasis mine):

http://healthyalternative.tumblr.com/post/49311742644/it-has-slipped-continued

Just to clarify…

My boyfriend wrote that post while I was at work and that is what I came home to.

I’m going to leave it up because it’s 95% true and I need a fresh start. However, what I believe is inaccurate about the post is my ability to improve. Even though he has been up and down about my smoking, because he can’t seem to quit smoking when I still puff away, I will quit. I will quit today. I’m throwing on a patch and moving forward. Wether or not it’s too late in our relationship. 

I had my baby TWO months ago. She is amazing and I want to be a good role model for her when it comes to health and happiness. Even if Dad is not in the family picture, I will make sure it doesn’t effect her negatively. Hell, I grew up with a single mom and I wouldn’t have wished for anything different. 

I still believe in myself. I know I will bounce back, I know I will get fit and continue my healthy journey. It might be hard for him to see that now but he saw it in me before and hopefully he still believes in me. 

I want to thank everyone of my followers for your support. When I read your notes and messages in reply to the original post, I couldn’t help but tear up. You are all amazing that all of you (strangers) can still believe in me even though!! <3

Healthy Alternative is not dead.

The WTFness of all of that just made my head explode. If that happened to me, posting a rebuttal on my blog would be the LAST thing on my mind. Mostly because I would probably be in jail for murdering his ass, but whatever.

May 1, 2013
10:01 am
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AKinpants
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wtf? that dude would be gone so fast his head would spin. Though the entire thing screams fake to me. As if she wrote it, waited for the sympathy comments, and then followed it up with a "teehee, my boyfriend wrote that, guys!"

May 1, 2013
10:07 am
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AKinpants said
wtf? that dude would be gone so fast his head would spin. Though the entire thing screams fake to me. As if she wrote it, waited for the sympathy comments, and then followed it up with a "teehee, my boyfriend wrote that, guys!"

Of course now that you say that….she's posted some pretty immature stuff in the past, so I hate to say but I wouldn't put it past her. And now she's reblogging all of her followers' notes of support as well, so who knows.

I just found it odd that this appeared after she hadn't posted in so long.

May 1, 2013
10:12 am
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soft kitty

What a fucking piece of shit. I can't even wrap my head around someone doing something that awful and embarrassing to someone they supposedly love. I hope she showed him the door.

ETA: Now that I read through again, it does sound fishy. If my boyfriend wrote that on my public blog, I wouldn't come back and say "Hey guys, that was my boyfriend! I'm leaving it up though because he's right hehe, I am a fatty and I need to get healthy again. Thanks for your support!"

Uh…no. I would tell that guy to get fucked would probably be so mortified I'd delete the post and slink away from my blog for days.

May 1, 2013
10:13 am
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We Like Sportz
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Never read this blog but that is FUCKING BONKERS INSANE if he really did that. What the hell?????? So was that his way of telling her he is leaving her????

WHAT?

May 1, 2013
10:16 am
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beanie11
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Oh man, if someone, let alone my significant other, posted my weight 2 months after I gave birth, trying to shame me for eating chinese food b/c I'm working and have a 2 month old, I would effing murder them. 

May 1, 2013
10:19 am
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soft kitty

beanie11 said
Oh man, if someone, let alone my significant other, posted my weight 2 months after I gave birth, trying to shame me for eating chinese food b/c I'm working and have a 2 month old, I would effing murder them. 

Especially since he's "a stay at home dad" and can, you know, COOK.

May 1, 2013
10:21 am
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Oatmeal
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That is so wrong in so many ways.  I can't believe she hasn't kicked him to the door and I can't believe she left the post up.  She must not have much respect for herself :(

May 1, 2013
10:28 am
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The Old Bailey
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0_0 In one of the comments, she says she started the blog after he sent her a traumatizing email about her weight. What a douche. DTMFA!

May 1, 2013
10:31 am
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The real herpderpsnarf
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Holy fuck, what an ASSHOLE. I hope she kicks him to the curb. This is front page worthy.

May 1, 2013
10:33 am
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The real herpderpsnarf
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Oatmeal said
That is so wrong in so many ways.  I can't believe she hasn't kicked him to the door and I can't believe she left the post up.  She must not have much respect for herself :(

Please don't imply that women who are abused (which, that's what this is, abuse) have no self-respect. That is most certainly not true in many cases, and I think it was BRAVE of her to leave it up (SO BRAVE) so people could see what an asshole he is. It's not as easy as "just leave!"

May 1, 2013
10:33 am
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soft kitty

The Old Bailey said
0_0 In one of the comments, she says she started the blog after he sent her a traumatizing email about her weight. What a douche. DTMFA!

Well that's a woman overflowing with self respect and pride.

May 1, 2013
10:37 am
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Busiest Bitch who ever Busied
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Almost sound made up …


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